April 21, 2016
Including your spouse?
Love is a funny thing. We’ve heard all our lives that it’s "patient and kind, not envious, boastful or proud. Love doesn’t dishonor. It isn’t self-seeking, easily angered or resentful. It always protects, trusts, hopes perseveres and never fails." Oh, and that love rejoices in truth. (Yes, this is a paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 13.)
And then there’s our marriage vows that say, "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health."
But do you notice? ... In those definitions, we only cover how we should demonstrate love to another. No one's teaching us how to receive love from our spouse(or anyone else for that matter).
Why does this matter? Because, when you don't know how to receive love, you end up settling. You settle for meh — for 'fine.' And you might even settle for poisonous, violent, and horrible.
You do so because you convince yourself that the problem is you — that somehow you don't act loving enough. So you try even harder and harder to love the other person, hoping that if you get good enough at it, that person will love you back.
But here’s a harsh but loving truth:Some people are just not good for you (and never will be) and you…
Read more: Some People Aren't Good For You (No Matter How Much You Love Them)
April 11, 2016
If you continue doing these 19 things, you are guaranteeing yourself an unhappy marriage (and life).
Most couples enter marriage seeing the world and especially each other through rose-colored glasses. They believe their love is enough to carry them through to living their dreams of happily ever after with each other.
Unfortunately, as time goes by the rosiness of the world (and each other) fades. Their marriage isn’t as happy or fun as they imagined on their wedding day. And they’re left worrying that maybe they’re doomed to an unhappy marriage or, even worse, become one of the 50% of couples who divorce.
If any of this sounds painfully familiar to you, don’t worry. You’re not condemned to a life of misery or even divorce.
You can bring the joy back to your marriage, but it will take work. So roll up your sleeves and get ready to make you and your marriage better.
Here are the 19 things you must stop doing right now if you’re committed to bringing the joy back to your marriage:
- Communicating with your spouse over social media.A marriage is between the two of you. It’s not between the two of you and all your friends, family, casual acquaintances or…
Read more: Are You Doomed To A Marriage Of Unhappily Ever After?