Karen says "You Need To Know
What You Still Have
To Do To Get Over
Divorce is painful! It hurts to have your life (and your family's life) torn apart. You'll ask, How long does it take to recover from divorce? hoping that someone will be able to tell you exactly when your pain will stop.
Sometimes the pain can be so great that you wonder if it will ever end.
Sometimes you might believe that what you're feeling isn't normal because it's nothing like what you expected.
Thoughts and feelings like these can make you feel isolated and like no one understands.
But I want you to know that you're not alone. You're not the first to feel what you're feeling or to think what you're thinking as you work through the grief of your divorce.
Maybe some of this sounds familiar:
- You're physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night
- You believe there must be things about you that have to change
- You find yourself wanting to unload your feelings of hurt and anger on your ex
- You feel like crying (almost constantly) because you feel so sad
- You want to stop thinking about your ex, but somehow you can't
I get it. I've been exactly where you are right now. When my marriage ended in 2002, I can't tell you how many nights I cried myself to sleep wondering when the pain would stop and if I was sane. I had no idea when things would get better and what it would take for my life to feel "normal" again.
Being on the other side of a divorce, I can confidently tell you that you will get past this; there will be a time in the not so distant future when you will start to see the glimmer of hope that you can be happy again. I know because I've done it myself and I have also helped hundreds of other people to do it too.
And I can help you too.
The truth is that healing from divorce takes time. There is no single answer to the question"How long does it take to recover from divorce?" No one can tell you exactly how long it will take you because there's no one way to get through it.
Why does this matter?
Because if you look down the road, there will be a moment when you're ready for love again. A time when you say to yourself, "I have forgiven myself (and maybe even my ex) and I want to invite love back into my life". Can you imagine that day? I can. And I want that day for you.
But in order to get there, you have to work through the ending of this relationship. It's through this process that you open your heart again to the possibility of a great love. Consider that your heart has only so much room in it; if a great deal of that space is taken up with being mad, hurt or upset with your ex, that room won't be available to love another. You have to clear out the old stuff and hurt feelings to make room in your heart for a new love.
And you can do this in one of two ways: with your eyes open or with your eyes closed.
What do I mean by this? Some people are afraid of what they're going through. They do their best to hide from it emotionally, intellectually, and even physically. But the pain doesn't go away. It waits for any opportunity to pour out. If you're someone like this, maybe you cry uncontrollably at a sad movie or you get ragefully angry at a car driving too slowly on the expressway. These are misplaced feelings - feelings that are a bit out of proportion and context for what's really happening. Your feelings will come out one way or another no matter how you try to control or ignore them.
That's one path.
The other is more direct, more heartfelt, more true and more real...and that is the natural path of feeling and expressing your emotions as they come up naturally in the moments of your divorce.
Even if you choose this path, you will probably still wonder how long it will take you to recover from divorce and how much further you have to go. The Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (FDAS) and Personalized Plan can help. It is designed to give you the answer to the questions "How far have I come?", "What do I need to be doing next?", and "How much more do I have to go through to get over this divorce?".
Here's how it works. After purchasing the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (FDAS) and Personalized Plan, you'll immediately be given access to the self-assessment. It consists of 100 questions and will take you about 30 minutes to complete. As soon as you complete the survey, your results and personalized plan will be displayed.
Your results will appear in a very easy to read graph. The graph will show you where you are with your Overall Adjustment to the End of Your Marriage score and further break your results down into 6 different categories:
Your Personalized Plan will then give you one exercise that you can do to improve your results in each category.
Since you receive your results and personalized plan immediately, you will know how well you are doing in this exact moment and precisely what you can do right now to best continue your healing.
And as a special bonus, you will also receive a FREE 30-Minute Debrief Session with me. After I receive your results, I will reach out to you to schedule your Debrief Session. At the time we agree to, I'll give you a call and you can talk directly with me to get additional clarity and expert tips for moving through your divorce recovery process.
Consider this example: one day in the not so distant future your child will have a birthday and your ex will want to participate in the celebration. How does that make you feel? What if he or she brings their new significant other? How does that make you feel? On some level, it is predictable that your ex will move on, therefore it’s something you will need to learn how to handle.
This survey and plan will help you work through the underlying feelings that can surface during predictable events like this one and allow you to move through them without getting stuck in unnecessary grief or anger. It will also:
- Walk you through an amazing array of all the thoughts and feelings people dealing with divorce experience
- Give you expert tips and techniques to do on your own (or with your coach/counselor) to help you move more quickly through the pain of your divorce
- Help you take the next steps to creating your positive new future
You can find out how you are doing right now with the
Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale and Personalized Plan
The cost for the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (FDAS), Personalized Plan, and BONUS Debrief Session is only $23.50. Simply click the "Purchase Now" button and complete the order process.
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Curious if this self-assessment survey is for you? Here's what people are saying about the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (FDAS), Personalized Plan, and BONUS Debrief Session:
You were quickly able to provide me with some resources and tools...to effectively improve my situation, remove some blockages that were hindering me from moving forward, and developing positive strategies and exercises to empower me. I feel like a new person, mentally, physically, spiritually, ...excited to proactively implement my new game plan of personal growth...recharged and confident about my future! Thank you, Dr. Finn, for giving me a new high energy outlook on life as I prepare for more breakthroughs in 2012! ~Roy Krymis
Karen has enabled me to see more possibilities and have the courage to reach for things that are important to me. With Karen's support, I was able to take actions that yielded great results. Karen has made a very positive difference in my life! ~Sue P.
Your willingness and innate ability to put yourself in one's shoes provides you with the unique skills to understand that person's issues, concerns and needs from their perspective. This ability along with the natural empathy you brought to the table definitely helped me. Thank you very much for all of the coaching and help you provided! ~Bala B.
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Disclaimer: This product uses the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (FDAS), a self-assessment. As such, no inferences should be drawn regarding personality characteristics of individuals who take the FDAS. This is NOT a "psychological test".