Surviving Infidelity

Woman sitting in a lounge thinking about how to get over resent after an affair.

How To Get Over Resentment After An Affair And Start Living Your Life Again

By Dr. Karen Finn / November 6, 2019

Three steps to help you put the past behind you. There are no words to adequately describe the shock and pain of betrayal. It shakes the foundation of not only your relationship, but of your reality – all of it. And you resent it. You resent the action that your spouse or partner took to…

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Sad man sitting on a bench struggling with ideas of how to overcome marital infidelity.

How To Overcome Marital Infidelity & Move On With Your Life

By Dr. Karen Finn / September 11, 2019

You can move forward from the betrayal if you start with these 7 steps. Who knew that one day you’d be searching for help on how to overcome marital infidelity? It’s not an experience anyone really expects will happen to them. After all, when we marry, we all believe that we’re different, that something as…

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Tear falling from a woman’s eye as she struggles to deal with marital infidelity.

Marriage Rocked By Infidelity? Here’s How To Begin Getting Through It

By Dr. Karen Finn / July 25, 2019

Answers to the three questions every spouse who’s been cheated on asks. After discovering your spouse has cheated, and the initial shock wears off, a million questions bombard you. How could this have happened? Why did they do it? What were they thinking? Aren’t I enough? What’s wrong with me? How did I miss the…

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Man sitting on steps contemplating the difficulties of surviving a wife’s infidelity.

Why Surviving A Wife’s Infidelity Is So Hard

By Dr. Karen Finn / June 11, 2019

Infidelity changes everything. Surviving infidelity is hard. The sense of betrayal is profound when you learn that your spouse has cheated on you. And, yet, for many men – even those who have been unfaithful themselves – surviving a wife’s infidelity is especially brutal. Although it’s changing, most men were taught to focus on achievements…

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Confident woman who has figured out how to survive infidelity and betrayal.

How To Survive Infidelity And Betrayal Without Betraying Yourself

By Dr. Karen Finn / April 29, 2019

You need to pause and get clear on what you want. Learning your spouse has had or is having an affair is earth-shattering. In an instant, the implicit trust you’ve given them – and built your life upon – evaporates. And, shell-shocked, you’re left wondering how to survive infidelity and betrayal and move forward. When…

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Unhappy couple holding pillows and wondering not only which marriages survive infidelity, but if theirs will.

Which Marriages Survive Infidelity & How To Tell If Yours Is One Of Them

By Dr. Karen Finn / March 18, 2019

Knowing which marriages survive infidelity can help you find hope (or know it’s over). If your world has been thrown off its axis by an affair, you may wonder which marriages survive infidelity. You may wonder how it’s even possible to survive such a gutting of the intrinsic trust in a marriage. And your doubt…

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Man looking out at a lake wondering how to get over a divorce and an affair.

How To Get Over A Divorce And An Affair

By Dr. Karen Finn / March 11, 2019

No matter how bad things seem now, you can get through this. The divorce devastated you. The affair that caused it all but destroyed you. Knowing how to get over a divorce and an affair seems all but impossible. It’s a sobering reality that we just take for granted the “around 50%” divorce rate in…

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Man holding his head and wondering about how to get over an affair when you cheated.

How To Get Over An Affair When You Cheated

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 30, 2019

The path forward won’t be easy, but healing is possible. When infidelity quakes a marriage, concern usually rallies around the betrayed spouse. Figuring out how to get over an affair when you cheated is most often left to…well…you. Overcoming infidelity is a gut-wrenching process, regardless of a decision to stay in or leave the marriage.…

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Woman embracing her husband after discovering how to get over an affair your husband had.

How To Get Over An Affair Your Husband Had And Make Your Marriage Work

By Dr. Karen Finn / December 18, 2018

It won’t be easy, but you can get past this and create a better marriage together. How do you get past this? Knowing how to get over an affair your husband had when you can’t even breathe — it feels impossible. How can you even want to stay with him? And how do you imagine…

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Woman lost in thought about how infidelity changes you.

How Infidelity Changes You Whether You’re The Betrayer Or Betrayed

By Dr. Karen Finn / December 10, 2018

Infidelity impacts you in profound ways regardless of which side of the betrayal you’re on. Infidelity changes everything about a relationship. How could it not? But how infidelity changes you isn’t necessarily so sweeping and general, regardless of your role in the mess. Dr. Jay Kent-Ferraro attempts to dispel the cliché myth that “once a…

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Who does infidelity affect? The short answer is the entire family like the one pictured here.

Who Does Infidelity Affect?

By Dr. Karen Finn / October 29, 2018

It’s not just the betrayed spouse who suffers. Few things are as rending to love, let alone marriage, than the scourge of infidelity. But besides the jilted spouse, who does infidelity affect? There is no question that infidelity undermines the very foundation of committed love. It wipes out trust and replaces it with shame, embarrassment,…

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Man playing with his ring wondering, “Why do married men cheat and still stay married?”

Why Do Married Men Cheat And Stay Married?

By Dr. Karen Finn / September 12, 2018

Be prepared, these reasons may infuriate you or produce feelings of empathy. It’s a common question today that seems to go hand-in-hand with the questions about respect between the genders that we’re still struggling with as a society: Why do married men cheat and still stay married? In my years working as a divorce coach,…

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