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How To Have A Better Life After Divorce Than When You Were Married

Man who has figured out how to have a better life after divorce.


You’ll need to be proactive, but living a great life post-divorce is totally worth it.

You might not believe it now, but that doesn’t make it any less true. You can have a better life after divorce than you had when you were married. It probably won’t happen for you right away, but it will happen – if that’s what you truly want.

You’ll have to really want it because you’ll have to work for it. A great life post-divorce won’t be handed to you on a silver platter no matter how much you wish it would be.

A few of the things you’ll need to be proactive about to have a better life after divorce include:

  • Grieve what was and what will never be.

    When you divorce, you say goodbye to a lot – your marriage, your lifestyle, seeing your children every day, and your dreams of happily ever after with your spouse to name just a few. You need to mourn all of it before you can fully move on.

  • Let go of feelings of failure, blame, regret and guilt through compassion and forgiveness.

    Letting go of the painful feelings means that you work through them – not ignore them or stuff them down.…

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How To Get Over An Unfair Divorce

Man wondering how to get over an unfair divorce.

When you stop feeling victimized and start feeling happy, you’ll be able to move on with your life.

No matter how you look at it, all divorces are unfair.

Is it fair that you’ve devoted x number of years to trying to make your marriage work only to wind up divorced? No.

Is it fair that you’re now paying child support instead of living with your children? Absolutely not.

Is it fair that s/he has already moved on with their life and you’re still in so much pain? No way in H#LL!

There’s nothing fair about divorce. But there’s a problem living with nearly constant thoughts of how unfair your divorce is. You will remain bitter, resentful and unhappy.

And when you remain in these emotions, you’ll be nearly unrecognizable to yourself and those you love. You won’t be the same fun, positive, energetic person you were before all of this happened.

Just in case you’re wondering if how you’re dealing with the unfairness of your divorce is really all that bad, here are some of the tell-tale signs that you’re focusing too much on the unfairness:

  • Complaining to anyone who will listen about how unjust things are.
  • Talking about your ex or the court or…

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What To Do If You’re Bored And Unhappy With Marriage

A couple who is feeling bored and unhappy with marriage.

You don’t have to settle for feeling bored and unhappy with marriage. Things can be better.

Many people simply accept being bored and unhappy with marriage as normal. They believe you can’t feel the elation and attraction you felt when your love was new forever.

However, there’s a huge gap between the feelings of being in love you had when your relationship was new and feeling bored and unhappy.

Choosing to settle for feeling meh about your marriage is not only extremely sad, but it can negatively impact your health. Do you really want to accept this as your fate? Probably not.

Just because you know you’re tired of feeling bored and unhappy with marriage, doesn’t mean you know what to do about it. So, it’s time to consider your options.

One option you have is divorce. Yet if the only problem in your marriage is that it’s in a rut and it’s lost its spark, divorce is an extreme response.

Another option you can consider is continuing to feel bored and unhappy with your marriage. If you were truly willing to settle for this type of marriage, you wouldn’t be reading this article.

The final option to consider is bringing life back to your marriage.…

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15 Surviving Infidelity Quotes To Help You Heal

One of fifteen surviving infidelity quotes.

Whether you were betrayed, or you cheated, these surviving infidelity quotes can help you move past the pain.

Dealing with betrayal is very difficult because it triggers an avalanche of emotions for both of you.

If you cheated, chances are you’re wracked with guilt and confusion, yet yearning for your spouse’s forgiveness and love.

If you were betrayed, chances are you’re struggling with feeling insecure, unloved, and unwanted. You’re probably also wondering if you can ever truly trust your spouse again.

Whichever side of the infidelity you’re on, your emotions are running rampant because you and your marriage are facing a huge challenge – how to move forward. This is one of the most painful and confusing situations you’ll ever face.

In fact, sometimes the pain is so great that you can feel isolated and lost in it.

These 15 surviving infidelity quotes will help you find your way back from the fog of your confusion and pain, so you can move forward instead of remaining mired in the repercussions of the affair.

Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.

~Unknown~

When a marriage is rocked by infidelity, both partners suffer. You’ll both feel a distinct difference between the…

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How To Get Through Grief After A Divorce

Woman sitting on the floor by her bed sobbing with grief after a divorce.

Healing from your divorce will teach you a lot about yourself – if you’re willing to learn.

It doesn’t matter which side of the divorce decision you’re on or the reason for the decision. The end of a marriage that began with dreams of happily ever after is heartbreaking.

It’s OK to experience grief after a divorce.

Grief after a divorce is profound because the end of your marriage means your entire life must change – whether you want it to or not.

Grief is also incredibly confusing. One minute you’re feeling hopeful about making a new life for yourself. And the next you’re crushed by the fact that your old way of living is over for good.

Of course, you’re also faced with uncertainty about how you’ll cope with creating new rituals and routines, so your life (and the lives of your children) can run smoothly.

You’re shouldering expanded responsibilities now that you’re on your own. And even having to learn how to do new things so your life can move forward in some fashion instead of simply falling apart.

Divorce means that your relationships change too – all of them. Obviously, your relationship with your former spouse changes. But so do your relationships with…

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