- June 6, 2017
How to give them what they need – even when they’re not with you.
Kids need love, emotional support, consistent discipline, and structure to thrive. And you definitely want your child to thrive.
Yet, when you divorce, your ability to meet all of your child’s needs without fail becomes impossible – and not because of all the turmoil you’re dealing with. (Although, that does play a part.)
The real reason why you will never ever be able to meet all of your kid’s needs is because your ex, their other parent, has your child part of the time. And it’s your ex’s job to meet your child’s needs when they have your kid with them.
Yes, even if your ex sucks from your perspective, it’s still their responsibility to care for your child when they are together.
Of course, if your child suffers neglect or abuse when your ex is caring for them, then you do need to step in immediately. But thankfully, that’s not the norm.
When you can’t be 100% sure of what’s happening when the horrible person you were married to has your child, it’s easy to fall prey to your fears that your divorce will destroy your kid.