- October 19, 2015
Coping with a divorce is difficult - make sure you are talking to the right people for support.
I cringe whenever someone tries to comfort their friend who is going through a heart-wrenching divorce by lying to them. Even though the lie is told with love and without malice, it's still destructive. Without meaning to, these people are undermining their friend's chances of quickly healing from their divorce.
These people are telling their BFFs that it just takes time to heal from divorce. It doesn't sound all that bad, but it's the same as telling someone with an appendix ready to burst that it will just take time before the pain in their abdomen stops—completely inappropriate and potentially life-threatening.
Divorce is one of the most disruptive life events anyone can go through. It takes effort to get your life back in order. Although many choose to go it alone as they heal from a failed marriage, working with a divorce professional who is skilled at identifying and resolving divorce wounds can help you heal more completely.
Helping professionals who specialize in divorce can guide the complete healing of your divorce wounds because there's usually more to a divorce wound than at first appears.