- May 19, 2015
Knowing WHY you’re hurting can be your first step to getting over it.
Heartbroken. Sometimes that's the only way to describe the tidal waves of grief that come with a breakup.
Ending a relationship with someone or, worse, having someone break up with you causes incredibly painful feelings because of all the losses. You grieve the lost connection with that person. After all, you loved them so much. But let's get real about that. Are you sad because you're not with the person you had a relationship with? OR are you really upset because you're not with the person who you thought your partner was?
If you're like most of us, you're upset to have lost who you thought your partner was. Because, let's face it, if they really were the ideal person for you, you'd still have a relationship.
Being heartbroken also means grieving lost couplehood. It feels good being connected to someone else — to not have to face the world on your own. Yet, breaking up with someone means you're suddenly alone. It's no longer two against the world. It's just you, feeling naked, isolated and afraid.
There's another reason for your fear of being alone. Being alone means that before too long you'll have to…