- August 14, 2015
All it takes is a bit of courage and determination.
There's very little that's easy about getting divorced. And just about all divorcees are on the lookout for shortcuts so they can move on with their life as quickly as possible and hopefully avoid some of the pain.
The problem is that when it comes to truly healing from your divorce you need to experience the pain so you can free yourself from it.
Yes, you read that correctly. You need to feel the pain so you can be free from it.
But feeling it doesn't mean wallowing or drowning in it. It also doesn't mean beating yourself up with thoughts of what you coulda, shoulda, or woulda done differently. It just means acknowledging the emotion and releasing it.
So how do you acknowledge an emotion and release it? Well, it kinda depends on the emotion.
If you're feeling sad, you might acknowledge and release the sadness by crying or by getting busy and doing something productive. I find that when I'm sad crying helps until I can shift my thoughts toward being appreciative about what I'm sad about. Kinda the whole "every adversity ... carries within it the seed of an equivalent or greater…