Life After Divorce

Woman wearing pink blouse looking scared by the realities of life after divorce from a narcissist.

The Realities Of Life After Divorce From A Narcissist

By Dr. Karen Finn / October 2, 2019

Life won’t necessarily be easy, but it can be better. There was a time when even Aristotle believed that Earth was the center of the solar system. According to this geocentric model, the bright planetary bodies all revolved around us earthlings. The narcissist has a similar take on his or her position in the universe.…

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Couple on a date and one of them is wondering if it’s a rebound relationship or not.

How To Tell The Difference Between A Rebound Relationship And The Real Thing

By Dr. Karen Finn / August 14, 2019

Knowing the difference could save you from another heartbreak. Funny thing about being in a rebound relationship: it’s never just the two of you who are in it. There’s always someone else lurking in the corners. Namely, your ex. Maybe even your rebound partner’s ex, too.  Regardless of who is taking refuge in the rebound…

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Happy man afloat in his boat who discovered how to start over after divorce.

How To Start Over After Divorce Even If It Seems Impossible

By Dr. Karen Finn / July 4, 2019

Impossible is only one perspective. Divorce impacts every facet of your life – how you live, who you are, what you do, when you get to see your kids, and maybe even where you live. So, of course, it’s natural that with all this change you’d feel sad, angry, resentful and uncertain about how to…

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Happy woman in a field of sunflowers celebrating successfully rebuilding a life after divorce.

Why Rebuilding A Life After Divorce Can Be The Best Thing You’ve Ever Done

By Dr. Karen Finn / May 19, 2019

With focus, determination, and courage, you can create an amazing life for yourself. Divorce is difficult, painful, heartbreaking and so many other unpleasant things. It changes your lifestyle, your parenting, and even your sense of self. It can bring you lower than you’ve ever been before. Yet, if you’re determined and choose to be brave,…

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Man sitting with his sons in his lap realizing that life after divorce for dads can be really good.

The Unvarnished Truth About Life After Divorce For Dads

By Dr. Karen Finn / April 9, 2019

You can get through this. Life after divorce for dads is tough for a multitude of reasons. There’s the grief, anger, hurt, loneliness, and sense of failure. There’s the financial burden of paying for your attorney, and maybe the cost of setting up a new household, spousal maintenance, and child support. And most importantly, life…

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Woman standing by a canal feeling scared of life after divorce.

7 Things To Remember When You’re Feeling Scared Of Life After Divorce

By Dr. Karen Finn / February 22, 2019

You can overcome your fears if you learn to listen to them differently. When the Kansas tornado picked up Dorothy’s house and whisked it off to Munchkinland, she was naturally afraid. Feeling scared of life after divorce isn’t much different, really. Marriage, with all its imperfections and frustrations, is the thing you “know.” Or at…

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Woman crying and thinking, “I hate my life after divorce.”

What To Do If You Find Yourself Saying, “I Hate My Life After Divorce”

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 7, 2019

It’s possible to have a great tomorrow even if today your life after divorce sucks. Perhaps you wanted your divorce. Perhaps not. Perhaps it was for the best. Perhaps not. But if you are thinking, “I hate my life after divorce,” something has to change. Divorce may be an unexpected reality in your life, but…

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Man sitting on the beach contemplating his life after a divorce at 50.

What Life After A Divorce At 50 Is REALLY Like

By Dr. Karen Finn / October 1, 2018

Divorce is difficult at any age but divorcing at 50 or later has unique challenges. Divorce rates may be highest for people under 50; but divorce rates for those over 50 have practically doubled since 1990. And for those over 50 who are ending a second or third marriage, the statistics are even worse. Life…

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Woman thinking “The effort of rebuilding my life after divorce was completely worth it!”

Rebuilding My Life After Divorce Wasn’t Easy, But The Effort Was Worth It

By Dr. Karen Finn / September 17, 2018

Rebuilding your life isn’t easy by any stretch of the imagination, but if I can do it so can you. When I was dealing with my divorce, I never thought I would get to this place — this vantage point of talking about “rebuilding my life after divorce.” When I say I was “stuck,” I…

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Woman who is happily adjusting to life after divorce.

7 Tips For Adjusting To Life After Divorce

By Dr. Karen Finn / July 23, 2018

Life post-divorce is different from married life. By using these tips, your different can be great. The dress. The guests. The honeymoon. Newlyweds walk down the aisle planning a life of home and happiness, not adjusting to life after divorce. But statistics speak to the glaring frequency of divorce: 41 percent of first marriages end…

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Man who has figured out how to have a better life after divorce.

How To Have A Better Life After Divorce Than When You Were Married

By Dr. Karen Finn / June 11, 2018

You’ll need to be proactive, but living a great life post-divorce is totally worth it. You might not believe it now, but that doesn’t make it any less true. You can have a better life after divorce than you had when you were married. It probably won’t happen for you right away, but it will…

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Man thinking about the reality of life after divorce.

The Reality Of Life After Divorce May Not Be What You Think

By Dr. Karen Finn / July 31, 2017

Life after divorce isn’t all good or all bad. There’s a lot of life that’s between these extremes. Divorce is complicated. And because it’s so complicated, people tend to focus on the worst-case and best-case scenarios when they think about the reality of life after divorce. At one extreme, some assume that the truth of…

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