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Insider Tips For Choosing Your Divorce Attorney Or Mediator

By Dr. Karen Finn / November 4, 2012

Whether you’re a man or woman, the dumper or dumpee, one of the very first things you probably realized you needed to do to get divorced is that you need to hire an attorney. If you’re like most people, you probably asked a friend or family member who’s been divorced who they used and then…

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Stop Scaring Yourself!

By Dr. Karen Finn / October 28, 2012

Here’s how to stop letting your imagination make things seem so much worse than they really are. Since it’s the season for scary stuff, I thought I’d tell you a couple of horror stories I told myself when I was getting divorced. The first story is the everyday story. The second is the special event…

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Straight From the Headlines!

By Dr. Karen Finn / July 25, 2012

In just 11 days Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise reached a divorce settlement. For most of us, the thought of reaching an agreement with our former spouse in just 11 days seems like a fantasy. How were they able to do it so quickly? From what I can tell there are two major factors that…

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Little girl celebrating one of many post-divorce special occasions.

How To Take That Post-Divorce Awkwardness Out Of Special Occasions

By Dr. Karen Finn / June 29, 2012

What do you do about special occasions like birthdays when you get divorced? Let’s take a look at this question from a couple of different angles. First, let’s see what you can expect to be different. Next, let’s dig into the question of which ones you should still celebrate. Finally, let’s talk about how you…

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Riding the Ride: How To Recognize And Manage Your Emotions Through Divorce

By Dr. Karen Finn / June 11, 2012

Some decisions are really easy to make – What will I have for breakfast? What TV show do I want to watch? What time do I need to get up in the morning? Other decisions, like whether or not divorce is the correct path for you to take, can be agonizing. Let’s begin by focusing…

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Finding Your True Power

By Dr. Karen Finn / June 1, 2012

I love the Beatles. OK, it’s more accurate to say I love the Beatles album 1. I consider it “happy music” and often put it on when I’ve got a long drive ahead of me or when I just need a pick-me-up. One of the songs on the album is Help! If you’re not familiar…

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Life Is What’s Happening Now

By Dr. Karen Finn / May 25, 2012

Time is one of those concepts that we all get, but is difficult to define. It’s a marker that allows us to separate past, present, and future. Why bother discussing time? Because, I agree with Alan Lakein who is credited with saying, “Time = Life, therefore, waste your time and waste your life, or master…

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Your Thoughts Matter!

By Dr. Karen Finn / May 17, 2012

We all have hundreds of thousands of thoughts every day. Time to get up. I’m hungry. Who’s calling? Why haven’t they sent that email yet? I have so much to do. Do I look fat? How am I going to solve this problem? Why isn’t my attorney returning my call? If s/he would just reconsider,…

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4 Steps To Overcoming Overwhelm

By Dr. Karen Finn / April 26, 2012

Overwhelm is an expected consequence of divorce. I say that because WITHOUT EXCEPTION it’s something I work on with every single one of my clients. It’s also something I had to learn how to overcome when I went through my own divorce. What I’m going to share with you today is EXACTLY what I share…

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Three Steps To Making Your Divorce Easier

By Dr. Karen Finn / April 9, 2012

“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts, His acts being seven ages.” -Shakespeare As You Like It Act 2, scene 7, 139-143 Divorce is one of those times when we notice that people…

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From Endings To Beginnings

By Dr. Karen Finn / April 9, 2012

For most people, spring brings to mind sprouting plants, rain showers and new beginnings. And yet, despite the season, most people going through divorce find it hard at times to think of beginning anything new when what was -their marriage- is ending. It’s so easy to get caught up in all the things that just…

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A Quick And Simple Way To Dump Divorce Depression

By Dr. Karen Finn / March 30, 2012

It’s rare that someone sees their divorce as a success. Most people see divorce as a failure – their personal failure. The very sad fact is that it’s not unusual for someone to interpret the failure of their marriage as their failure in life. This couldn’t be further from the truth! As an individual, you…

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