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How To Handle Co-Parenting With An Ex Who Hates You

Couple near a tree arguing about how to handle co-parenting.

You can co-parent with minimal contact & still raise happy kids.

You would think that two adults could figure out how to handle co-parenting after divorcing. It sounds like a no-brainer, “mature” thing to expect -- that parents would naturally put their children above their own feelings.

But if life followed the ideal, couples would walk down the aisle once and for good, and co-parenting wouldn’t have to exist. 

We all know that being an adult doesn’t guarantee wisdom, discretion, or even maturity. And bringing children into the world doesn’t guarantee that parents know how to parent. (And it certainly doesn’t guarantee that they will know how to handle co-parenting after a divorce, especially when one parent hates the other.)

Once upon a time, children of divorce were awarded to their fathers because women couldn’t own property. (Yes, children were considered property.) Fast forward to the Industrial Revolution and on into the mid-20th century, and that all changed. 

Today’s adult children of divorce can easily expound on the custody arrangements of the mid- to late 1900’s. They normally lived with one parent (usually the mother) and saw the other parent only every other weekend. 

The concept of co-parenting is still relatively…

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How To Overcome Marital Infidelity & Move On With Your Life

Sad man sitting on a bench struggling with ideas of how to overcome marital infidelity.

You can move forward from the betrayal if you start with these 7 steps.

Who knew that one day you’d be searching for help on how to overcome marital infidelity? It’s not an experience anyone really expects will happen to them. After all, when we marry, we all believe that we’re different, that something as painful and heinous as betrayal on this level would never ever happen to us.

Yet, here you are, wondering if you can survive the horrendous pain of your spouse’s affair. And what does surviving even mean? Do you want to stay married? Do you want to leave? How can you even begin to think clearly enough to know what you want?

When it comes to knowing how to overcome marital infidelity and move on with your life, the truth is that you need to take things slowly – at least at first. Discovering your spouse has been unfaithful is traumatic. It shakes not only the foundations of your marriage and family, it shakes the foundation of your reality.

You begin to question what is real. And wonder if s/he ever loved you. Because you assume that the only way s/he could have betrayed you would be if s/he didn’t.

The…

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7 Signs Of Healing After Divorce (So You’ll Know You’re Getting Over It)

Man sitting on the floor wondering if he’ll ever see signs that he’s healing after divorce.

Yes, you can get over it.

Divorce isn’t a sign-and-done deal. Its aftermath can be emotionally eviscerating, leaving you to think you will never be whole again. (But you will be.) You may wonder if you will even recognize the signs of healing after divorce, given how badly you feel in the moment. (But you will.)

By the time two people get to the point of deciding to divorce, there is usually a lot of pain already under the bridge. Whether the marriage has been on slow dissolve or has suffered the blow of betrayal, divorce is the culminating loss of a great dream.

Even the most amicable divorce is an explosion of what was once at least somewhat predictable. You knew what you had, even if you didn’t have what you wanted. Your kids knew where “home” was. And your life was defined by the story you all wrote together.

But there is always a tipping point to mounting discord and disappointment, regardless of the cause. And reaching it can be shocking and surreal when you are left teetering on the precipice of an unsure future. Will there ever be healing after divorce? And will there be signsof healing after divorce to…

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How To Find Happiness In Your Life

Beautiful smiling woman who’s found the secret to how to find happiness in your life.

It really is possible for you to be happy.

Sometimes it can seem like you’re playing a game of hind-and-seek with happiness. Some days you might catch a fleeting glimpse of it, but it still eludes you.  Yet happiness is something you can have – you just need to know how to find happiness in your life.

When you search the internet, you’ll find widely varying opinions about how to find happiness in your life.

When you look at quotes about finding happiness in life, you’ll often see a correlation between having meaning in life and happiness. Yet, not everyone who has a meaningful life is happy. There are people who dedicate their lives to someone or some purpose and are still miserable.

Some say it’s a choice and that you must will yourself to be happy.

Some say you can only find happiness through putting yourself first.

Some say happiness is an inside job.

Others say you can and should find happiness outside of yourself.

Some say you just fake it until you make it.

And some even say you can’t find happiness. You can only stop doing things that make you unhappy.

All these different opinions can definitely leave you confused, frustrated,…

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18 Quotes From Famous Americans About Finding Happiness In Life

Woman leaning against a hedge enjoying the happiness in life that she’s found.

Which of these quotes inspire you to greater happiness in life?

The pursuit of happiness in life is one of the goals the founding fathers had for each American. Things have really changed a lot since the 1770s, but one thing hasn’t. We each still search for happiness.

The following quotes about finding happiness in life are all from famous American’s – from the founding fathers to media moguls. You’ll probably see some similarities in the sentiments, but you’ll also hear the individual path each of these people took to first define and then find their own version of happiness.

1.   Maya Angelou “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some humor, and some style.

2.   Dale Carnegie “Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.”

3.   George Washington “Happiness depends more upon the internal frame of a person’s own mind than on the externals in the world.

4.   Ralph Waldo Emerson “Every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”

5.   Lady Gaga “At the end of the day, you won’t be happy until you love yourself.”

6.   Franklin D. Roosevelt“Happiness lies in the joy…

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