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6 Strategies To Get To The Point Where You Can Truthfully Say, “I Love My Life After Divorce”

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Moving forward won’t necessarily be easy, but it is necessary if you want to love your life again.

It’s the end of life as you know it. It marks the influx of unknowns and full-spectrum emotions you may not even recognize, let alone be able to identify. It’s also the beginning of a paradigm shift that can leave you saying, “I love my life after divorce.”

The end of a marriage is hardly the recommended way to rediscover yourself and evolve into a newer and better you. But when divorce does happen, those people parting ways have choices to make. And those choices extend far beyond the division of assets and the determination of custody arrangements. 

At a time when your world has just spun off its axis, making decisions may seem futile, if not impossible. You may feel as if you have landed in a black hole with no vision and no sense of direction. 

But the world around you won’t stop spinning. And it won’t stop expecting you to show up if you are going to be a part of it. 

How you show up, however, can make all the difference between hating your life and saying, “I love…

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How To Fix An Unhealthy Marriage And Get That Loving Feeling Back

Married couple hugging under a tree after discovering how to fix an unhealthy marriage.

Yes, it is possible.

Considering how important relationships are, it’s amazing, really, how often people expect them to simply take care of themselves. Even more so when a relationship has gone the next step to marriage. It seems too many couples forget to focus on the constancy of effort required to make a marriage thrive. They do the upfront work of love to get to marriage. But eventually, they find themselves wondering how to fix an unhealthy marriage.

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Once a marriage has eroded to the point of being unhealthy, the idea of falling back in love may seem unattainable. Figuring out how to fix an unhealthy marriage — assuming it’s fixable — is one thing. Getting back into the groove of “that loving feeling” may just be too much to ask.

Or is it? 

Consider that 42-45% of first marriages end in divorce, and that percentage increases with each subsequent marriage. 

What is it about walking down the aisle that makes those early-love dreams so vulnerable to destruction? Do people not know how to pick the right partners? Do they not know how to be the right partners? Do they take each other…

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How Self-Awareness Can Affect Communication With Anyone In Incredibly Positive Ways

Man and woman sitting in a coffee shop exploring how self-awareness can affect communication.

Knowing yourself will help you better understand what others are trying to tell you.

When you think of being “self-aware,” you may have flashbacks to self-help books and guided meditations. But would you even consider how self-awareness can affect communication with the people in your life? Would it dawn on you that your ability — and willingness — to know yourself can improve your ability to know others? 

If you’re stuck in the perception that communication is all about what you say, you’ll miss out on how self-awareness can affect communication. 

It rarely occurs to most people that listening is the most important part of communication. If you’re all ears and no talk, what kind of communication is really going on?

A lot, actually — especially if the listening starts with yourself. 

And this is what self-awareness is all about. It’s not a chapter in New Age spiritualism or a state of mind achieved only under hypnosis (although hypnosis can help).

Awareness is the ability to be conscious of the experiences and stimuli that ultimately determine how you take in and process information. What you think, believe, and sense is a reflection of what is already dwelling and stirring within you.

Self-awareness, in a…

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Divorced And Wondering When Your Happy Life Will Begin? Here’s What You Need To Know

Man wearing glasses smiling because he knows his happy life will begin when you chooses it.

Could you really have control over when your happy life will begin?

If you’re in the throes of a divorce or have recently divorced, your world is understandably topsy-turvy. Up is down, and down is what you are all the time. And you’re probably wondering when your happy life will begin (assuming it ever will).

Confusion and worry are your familiar (and constant) companions. What do I do? What do I not do? Should I…? What if I…? Am I going to make it financially? Will the kids be OK? Am I ever going to feel better? Will I ever have love in my life again?

Validating the normalcy of this emotional chaos is an important part of accepting your new reality. It’s not a license to stay in this state forever. But it is an essential step toward letting go and not clinging to a reality that simply no longer is.

Validating these uncomfortable, even unfamiliar feelings is also a way of standing in faith that your happy life will begin. Your life is in transition, so a lot of feelings are going to come up as you’re forced out of your comfort zone.

You can either fight the process or embrace it. In…

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Yes, You Can Live A Happy Life After An Unexpected Divorce & Here’s How

Smiling woman who discovered that she can live a happy life after an unexpected divorce.

These 7 tips can help you find your new happy life.

When you’re the victim of an unexpected divorce, you feel lost at best and destroyed at worst. Just about everything you thought was true about your life is suddenly a lie. You weren’t happily (or happily enough) married. And now, as the dust on the bomb that wrecked your world is starting to settle, you wonder if you can live a happy life ever again – or if you are doomed to wandering around living the miserable shell of a life you’re started to accept as the new norm.

And the truth is that you can live a happy life after divorce – even an unexpected one.

However, to be happy again, you will have to do a few things to help happiness along.

Grieve

You’ve lost a lot. Divorce is about losing your lifestyle, your security, your kids, your status as a spouse, your dreams for a shared future, and, of course, your spouse. But those are only the obvious losses. There is a myriad of losses that are less obvious, but no less painful.

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And each of these losses needs to be grieved. Some…

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