When Your Relationship Ends (2)
Karen says, “Give me just 10 weeks and you will be ready to get on with your life.”
If you’re ready to get on with your life, keep reading because the next workshop begins Tuesday, September 13, 2016.
One of the most critical skills you need to learn right now is how to get over a divorce.
Why? Because if you don’t, your divorce can suck your life away.
It’s so easy to be consumed by the fear, depression, anger and loneliness that you forget how to live. You forget little things like what it is like to sleep through the night and awake excited to face the day. And you forget big things like how to feel happy.
Moms forget how to be present and excited with their kids. Dads forget what it’s like to feel loved and supported. The little things that your spouse did to make you feel (and believe) that you were a part of something special rots away and you’re left adrift, not sure where the rest of your life will go.
All of this is normal. For a while. But, there comes a time when you have to face the painful reality that your spouse isn’t coming home. That for you, there is a new reality; one that doesn’t include them or the future you once dreamed of having.
That life is over.
But, if you let it, a new life can begin. One where you feel whole again. One where you have friends and feel part of something special. One where you are that all-important role model to your children (or grandchildren); showing them the kind of life you want them to have as adults.
And one where, if you let yourself, you find love again.
This is the healing I can help you do. Because I am a divorce coach, I can help you learn how to get over a divorce.
Brené Brown, author of The Gifts of Imperfections says this about healing: “We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”
It’s profoundly true. What you resist, persists. It solidifies in your soul like a fossil and you cannot move ahead with your life. Being stuck in the grief of a bad marriage creates this same experience. Unless you have the courage to face your fears and move ahead.
Finding your courage IS the first step. Brené Brown also says this: “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” ― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly
Facing your demons is what it takes to move on with your life. There is no way around it, you can only move through it.
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“Before taking the WYRE workshop, I was scared, nervous, grief-stricken, afraid of being “reeled” back into my marriage, which I knew wasn’t what I wanted. Now, my life is much better — more exciting.. I have more control. I have a plan. I look forward to getting up in the morning.” |
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“Before taking the WYRE workshop and working with Karen, I was depressed, scared, insecure, unsure and unhappy. Now, my life is happy and moving on – I no longer dread the future.” |
And believe me, I get it. When my first marriage ended in 2002, my divorce sucked my life away. I was trapped in fear and misery. I couldn’t sleep; I could barely function. The day to day grind of living took every ounce of energy out of me. And the worst part was I didn’t know how to break the cycle. I had no idea when things would get better or IF getting better was even possible. I was clueless about how to heal after divorce.
For me, that was the depth of my despair. I not only felt alone and lost in my own life, I had no hope that this new reality would ever change. Would I ever stop missing what was? Would my life ever go back to “normal”, would anyone ever see me as lovable or desirable again? And could I ever risk getting this hurt by another person?
I had no answers to the questions that kept me awake night after night.
The hardest one was “why me”? Why was this happening to me? Why wasn’t I “good enough” or “lovable enough” or “pretty enough”? What did I do that caused this terrible thing to happen?
And still, alone at night, there were no answers.
Then one day I stumbled upon another person who understood what I was feeling. For the first time since we split, I had proof that I wasn’t the only person on the planet feeling this pain. And that helped me. Knowing I wasn’t alone, even though my story was unique, somehow gave me hope that if others had been in my shoes, and found a way out, that maybe, just maybe, so could I.
Conversation after conversation led me to a group – a divorce support group of sorts where I could share my experience and hear the pain of others. This unity of voices allowed me to really know in my heart and soul that things could get better. The people in the group who were further along in their healing, showed me the way. And eventually I was able to be that same kind of model for others coming along.
It was a profoundly healing experience and most importantly, it gave me my life (and my hope) back.
All these years later I’m happily married and in a REAL relationship. It isn’t perfect, but let me say it’s as perfect as a real relationship gets. And it all came from having the courage to join that group.
“Now, my life is so much more living. I look forward to a new and different life thanks to Karen and the class.”
— Christina B.
“Before taking the WYRE workshop and working with Karen, I was angry about my situation and unsure what to do. Now, my life is good! I’ve grieved and am ready to have the best life ever.”
— M.F. (female)
Since 2008 when I became a divorce coach I have been teaching clients the art of healing from divorce. It’s not always pretty, but that’s the point. You have to get in there and wrestle with your pain in order to see what life has on the other side for you.
I can help you too.
My divorce completely changed my life – for the better, although it sure didn’t feel like that at the time. Truthfully, it took me YEARS to recover fully. Why you ask? Back then I didn’t know what it took to dramatically decrease the time needed to get your life back from divorce.
I made mistakes. I made poor decisions. I was caught up in all the emotions and changes and just wasn’t able to be objective.
But now you don’t have to make the mistakes I made because…there is an easier way to get over your divorce and get on with living your life.
The When Your Relationship Ends (WYRE) Workshop is the most efficient and cost effective way to move on with your life. And the best part is that it is the only shortcut I know for moving on and getting back out there in a HEALTHY way.
By participating in the workshop, you are given step-by-step guidance through the entire divorce recovery process so you’ll know exactly WHAT you need to do and WHEN to do it so you can get over your divorce and get on with your life.
The WYRE Workshop is for you if you’re:
- Angry about your divorce and all that has happened
- Grief-stricken about the loss of your marriage
- Fearful about what your life after divorce will really be like
- Sad and wondering if you’ll EVER be happy or feel confident again.
If you’re ready to sign up now, the next session of WYRE begins Tuesday, September 13, 2016 at 7:00pm Central Time. Register for this WYRE session.
Here’s what we do together in just 10 short weeks:
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Week 1. Orientation/Overview – We’ll go over what you can expect during your divorce recovery. Knowing what lies ahead will give you a feeling of security and preparedness – something you could probably use right about now. |
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Week 2. Adaptations – Everyone adapts to their situation. In this step we’ll look at the adaptations you developed to survive in your marriage and how you might choose to live differently now. Just think of how having an enhanced ability to adapt can make you stronger and more resilient! |
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Week 3. Exploring Grief – Divorce is the death of not only your marriage, but also of the hopes and dreams you had when you married. Being able to grieve all the losses is a critical part of divorce recovery. It will lay the foundation for deeper healing as you move forward. |
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Week 4. Dealing with Divorce Anger – Sometimes the word “anger” doesn’t do justice to the intense rage-like feelings many people experience during divorce. We’ll explore the emotion of anger, how to express it appropriately and how to make this energizing emotion work for you instead of against you. Imagine the freedom you’ll feel when your anger is no longer consuming you. |
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Week 5. Improving Your Self-Worth – It’s very common to feel bad about yourself when you get divorced. Almost everyone views divorce as a failure and uses this thought to feel even worse about themselves. In this session you will discover how to boost your sense of self and tame those self-image gremlins. You will start to feel so much better about yourself and your new journey as a result. |
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Week 6. Developing Openness – Learning to be open again can be a daunting task after divorce. We’ll examine the ways we consciously and unconsciously hide parts of our personality and experiment with being open. Just imagine what can develop in your life when you are more open and receptive to new possibilities! |
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Week 7. Love?! – Love, in a romantic relationship sense, is often a confusing concept when you’re going through divorce. You might even be questioning if you know what love is. In this step we’ll talk about different styles of love and identify the ways you most prefer to experience this deep, intense emotion. Once you go through this session you will have a refreshing new outlook that will last for months, even years! |
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Week 8. Finding New Friendships – Many people who have been married a long time aren’t used to having friends of both sexes. But when recovering from divorce these are the people you can lean on. We’ll explore friendships and how to build relationships that may or may not lead to dating. When you have a support system in your life you will start to realize more than ever that you aren’t in this alone. |
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Week 9. Reconnecting With Your Sexual Self – When you were married, you were probably able to have your sexual needs met by your spouse. However, once you separated and started living separately, expressing yourself sexually changes dramatically. Most divorcing people have questions around sex and sexuality. We’ll talk about both. You’ll have an amazing opportunity to ask people of the opposite sex to answer questions you’ve never been able to ask before AND get truthful responses. What a concept! |
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Week 10. Letting Go – For our last class together, we’ll celebrate our time together, evaluate how far you’ve moved on from your divorce during the workshop and say goodbye. |
If you’re ready to sign up now, the next session of WYRE begins Tuesday, September 13, 2016 at 7:00pm Central Time. Register for this WYRE session.
Here’s what some previous participants had to say about their WYRE experience:
“The open sharing environment allowed me to see problems in myself that I otherwise would have ignored indefinitely. These issues could have continued to sabotage relationships for a long time to come. Now I have a chance to fix these problems. For that I am grateful.”
— R. W. (male)
“Before taking the WYRE workshop and working with Karen, I was scattered. Now, my life is more pointed in a forward direction.”
— B.J. (female)
“Before taking the WYRE workshop and working with Karen, I was praying that God would lead me to a support group. Then WYRE was offered and I took advantage of it.”
— C.L. (female)
My goal for you is two-fold:
- To help you discover how to get over your divorce as quickly and completely as possible.
- To help you rediscover yourself so can get on with your life as a happier person than you ever were in your marriage.
Let’s take a look at what you will receive in this comprehensive 10-week WYRE Workshop:
- Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends by Bruce Fisher, Ph.D. and Robert Alberti, Ph.D.
- A new lesson every week in exactly the right order for you to quickly get over your divorce.
- Helpful homework assignments which will give you the steps you need to take to feel better. Each assignment will only take about 30 minutes to complete.
- The friendship and support of the other workshop participants.
- The opportunity to take the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Survey (FDAS) twice to measure your progress from the beginning to the end of the workshop. (A $94 value.)
- 30 hours of my time over the course of the 10 weeks shared with all the workshop participants. (People generally pay me $5250 to work with me for 30 hours.)
The next session of WYRE begins Tuesday, September 13, 2016 at 7:00pm Central Time. Register for this WYRE session.
After you submit your registration information and complete the payment process, you’ll receive an email with all the details of how you’ll receive your textbook Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, how to access the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Survey (FDAS), and our 10-week curriculum.
…and you get all this for a lot less than attorney fees!
Register for WYRE for just $497.00 and you can have the answers you need to put your divorce behind you and move on with your life. You will have the tools you need to be happy and confident again.
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Invest 10 weeks in yourself and you’ll be well on your way to feeling happy and confident again!
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Disclaimer: This product uses the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (FDAS), a self-assessment. As such, no inferences should be drawn regarding personality characteristics of individuals who take the FDAS. This is NOT a “psychological test”.
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