Coparenting

It's hard to know how to tell your kids you're getting divorced.

How To Tell Your Kids You’re Getting Divorced

By Dr. Karen Finn / July 10, 2015

Planning and compassion are the most important pieces of this life-altering conversation. One of the most difficult things to do after you’ve decided to divorce is telling your children about your decision. It’s so hard because you aren’t sure exactly how your kids will react and you’re concerned that your divorce will negatively impact them…

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Family that was torn apart by gray divorce.

Gray Divorce’s Unexpected Challenge? Your Adult Kids

By Dr. Karen Finn / July 1, 2015

You’d like to believe that your adult children will be able to take your divorce in stride… Divorcing when you’re 50 or older has a unique set of challenges (including the label “gray divorce”). You face more complicated financial concerns because retirement is that much closer (CNBC). Health insurance and health care are more important…

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Bearded man wearing a red knit hat and staring with hatred into the camera.

8 Brutal Signs You Hate Your Ex MORE Than You Love Your Kids

By Dr. Karen Finn / May 15, 2015

All is fair in love and war? Not when your kids become casualties! Divorce changes everything — especially your feelings about your ex. Far from the love you felt on your wedding day, now you probably feel something closer to frustration, anger, or even downright hate. Hostile feelings during divorce are common but we all…

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Woman yelling and running.

3 Bullsh*t Ways WOMEN Bully Men After Divorce – P.S. Your Kids Notice

By Dr. Karen Finn / May 13, 2015

You’re not fooling anyone, ladies. And your kids notice it, too! When we think of couples going through “an ugly divorce,” people often assume that if one side is being an emotional bully, it’s the man. We instantly imagine it’s the poor, beleaguered ex-wife who is left to struggle under his oppression and vicious attacks—emotionally,…

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Divorcing couple wondering how they'll ever co-parent.

How To Effectively Co-Parent With A Bully During Divorce

By Dr. Karen Finn / April 3, 2015

3 tips to help you mitigate the meltdowns while co-parenting during divorce. A typical divorce is dramatic and traumatic for everyone involved. Divorce means that lives get changed forever – first and foremost your life, your kids’ lives, and your soon-to-be-ex’s (S2BX) life. Although for some people the thought of things never being the same…

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Want A Happy Blended Family? 5 Rules Stepparents MUST Follow

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 20, 2015

Love and respect is earned from a child, not demanded. If you’re thinking of marrying someone with kids, or if you’ve got kids and you’re getting married, your kids are going to gain a stepparent. Blended families are challenging and cause stress on your marriage. However, here are five rules for being a stepparent that…

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Little boy smiling for his Christmas picture.

4 Ways to Give Kids of Divorce The Gift of a Guilt-Free Holiday

By Dr. Karen Finn / November 21, 2014

Why you need to put YOUR issues aside and let your kids be kids! For way too many children of divorce, the holidays aren’t very merry at all. Instead, of being a season of fun and magic, it becomes a season filled with confusion, guilt and worry. Kids of divorce experience confusion because they have…

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Getting Divorced? Why You May Still Need A Family Therapist

By Dr. Karen Finn / February 24, 2014

Think you can only call in a family therapist to piece back together your relationship? Think again. When you got married, you created a family — a family of two. Over the years your family may have expanded to include a goldfish, a dog or cat, and kids. What if you you decide to get divorced?…

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3 Priceless (Yet Practical!) Tips For Co-Parenting After Divorce

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 27, 2014

Here’s some parenting advice for whatever stage of separation or divorce you’re in. Raising kids is a huge job made even trickier when dealing with separation and divorce. Although there are no easy answers, here is my best parenting advice for rising to the challenge. This may seem like an odd question, but how many…

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Dating After Divorce? Consider Blended Families

By Dr. Karen Finn / December 16, 2013

Bonus children, FTW! When it comes to dating for re-singled (a.k.a. divorced) parents, odds are that the people you’re dating will have kids of their own, too. Thoughts of entering into a serious relationship or even remarriage gives many re-singled parents cause for pause if not outright alarm because we’ve all heard the stories about…

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Little girl decorating a Christmas tree.

What I Wish All Kids Of Divorced Parents Thought About The Holidays

By Dr. Karen Finn / December 9, 2013

For way too many kids of divorced parents the holidays aren’t all that merry. Instead, the holidays are filled with confusion and guilt. These kids experience confusion because they often have a hard time keeping track of schedules about when they’re going to be with Mom, when they’re going to be with Dad and when…

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How YOUR Anger Affects Your Children During Divorce

By Dr. Karen Finn / June 24, 2013

It’s only natural to feel some anger when a marriage breaks down to the point of no return. It is understandable to be angry when feeling betrayed by anyone, especially a spouse or ex-spouse. Anger is such a powerful emotion that sometimes it is nearly impossible to keep it to ourselves, even during moments when…

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