- January 14, 2016
Make the story of your divorce recovery bittersweet and successful instead of just bitter.
Divorce is tough. The worst part of it is that there's loss after loss after loss.
You've lost your marriage.
You've lost your dreams of "happily ever after."
You've lost being married to one person for your entire life.
You've lost having your kids grow up in an intact family.
You've lost being able to see your kids growing up on a daily basis.
You've lost the conveniences that come with marriage - one home, shared responsibilities, shared parenting, etc.
These losses are only the tip of the iceberg of things you say goodbye to when your marriage ends. Divorce recovery is a tale of grief.
But the losses don't tell the whole story. They just set the stage - a stage of destruction.
It's the rest of the story that's the most powerful, the most affirming and the most wonderful. The rest of the story is about creating and rising from the ashes. It's a talk of you creating your life into something better than it was - a life you love even more. (Yes, it's possible.)
The trouble is you're probably not feeling all that…
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- December 16, 2015
YES! Being kind will help you heal and find happiness again.
Are you stressed out? Depressed? Does your self-esteem suck? Are you pissed beyond words at your ex? Do you have little to no patience with anyone else? Do you frequently have mood swings that make you wonder just who you are? Or do you simply wonder if you can ever be normal and happy again?
If you're still reading this, then you're either having a difficult time dealing with your divorce or you know someone who is. And don't worry, you're not alone.
Most people coping with divorce experience a wide range of emotions and thoughts they've never had before. It's easy to get caught up in the chaos of it all.
Divorce is difficult. But there is hope!
Research suggests that kindness may just be the best way to get through your divorce and feel greater happiness.
It doesn't matter whether you witness compassion, you receive kindness or you act kindly, the health benefits of benevolence are tremendous.
When you witness compassion your find a renewed faith in human nature, you experience an increased connection to others and chances are you'll be kinder too. (Psychology Today)
When you receive the thoughtfulness from others,…
Read more: Is Kindness The Key To Coping With Divorce?