17 Healthy Signs You're Handling Your Divorce Like A Boss!

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November 16, 2015

A childhood claim is the key to divorce recovery. Seriously!

"You're not the boss of me!" is a familiar refrain from the playground. Remember shouting it at one of your friends when they got a little too bossy?

Well, believe it or not, "You're not the boss of me!" is a fantastic thing to say to yourself whenever your divorce, your ex, your friends and family, or even your attorney seem too bossy or overwhelming.

This childhood claim of personal power is just the thing to break the tension and stress. It is your cue to stop being reactive and start being more purposeful. In other words, you really do get to be the boss of you!

How do you know if you're being a good boss? Look for these signs that you're doing a fantastic job:

1. You talk about it, but not incessantly. Talking about what's going on helps you to come to grips with your divorce and to think of new ways to deal with all of the changes and demands. But you also know that if all you're doing is talking, you're probably stuck and could use the help of a coach or counselor to get moving forward again.
2. You…

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Take More Responsibility For Your Breakup

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October 5, 2015

It might seem counter-intuitive, but taking responsibility is the best way to get over it and move on.

Breakups and divorces hurt - a lot. About all you can think about doing is making the pain stop. You might try drinking, going out with whomever you can and blaming your ex to make you feel better.

There is a certain logic to all this. The distractions of self-medicating and attention from the opposite sex will certainly take your mind off of your immediate pain, but no distraction will ever eliminate it. Also, blaming your ex for what you're feeling can make it seem easier to deal with because it's not your fault and there's nothing you can do. (Besides maybe get even with them or make them hurt as much as you do. But these are bad ideas no matter how appealing they might be right now.)

However, distracting yourself and placing blame are the fast track to more misery - not the relief you really want.

The only way to quickly and completely move on from a failed relationship is to take responsibility for it. Yup, you read that correctly. You need take responsibility for the breakup or divorce.

Now before you start down…

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4 Simple Tips For Overcoming The Misery Of Your Divorce

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October 22, 2015

Your misery is the result of 4 different emotions. Deal with them separately to get yourself unstuck.

Divorce is an upheaval of all that was - all that made your life make sense. The misery that comes with all the change is profound, but there is hope.

Staying stuck is optional. You can make it through your divorce. You can experience happiness again and maybe even find love again too.

How? First, you need to understand what misery is. Then, you do something about it.

Misery is "a SOS" from your soul. It's a result of feeling alone, stifled, overwhelmed and scared. Taken on their own, each of these emotions is challenging. When you experience them all at once, the result is often soul-crushing despair.

However, your situation isn't as hopeless as it might seem to you right now. The secret to getting out of being stuck in the muck of misery is to recognize that you can deal with each of these four emotions separately. By doing so, you loosen the bonds of your despair and move forward toward being genuinely happy again.

The following simple tips will help you deal with each of the four emotions of misery so you can get unstuck and…

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Feeling Heartbroken? 3 Ways to FINALLY Get Over Your Ex

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March 8, 2015

Drowning your sorrows in Häagen-Dazs and Kleenex isn’t the only way to get over your ex.

Feeling heartbroken over the loss of a relationship colors the whole world a shade of gloomy gray. Misery and grief are all you can recognize. And although this is normal, it sure doesn’t feel that way. Most of us want to get over heartbreak as quickly as possible.

The key to getting through the gloomy, tear-stained grayness of your heartbroken existence is to go through it, to feel what you're feeling, and to see your ex differently. Yeah, I know it's much easier for me to say that than it is to do, so here are 3 steps you can take (and why you should take them) to get over your ex.

1. Talk about your feelings; express yourself. The Huffington Post recently reported on some research Grace Larson did at Northwestern University. It turns out that it's a good idea to talk about your ex.

   Specifically, she found that people who talked in an interview setting about their emotions made more progress than those who didn't. It's important to note that this talking wasn't focused on problem-solving or blaming, but on perspectives. They would discuss things like when they first realized…

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