4 Simple Tips For Overcoming The Misery Of Your Divorce

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October 22, 2015

Your misery is the result of 4 different emotions. Deal with them separately to get yourself unstuck.

Divorce is an upheaval of all that was - all that made your life make sense. The misery that comes with all the change is profound, but there is hope.

Staying stuck is optional. You can make it through your divorce. You can experience happiness again and maybe even find love again too.

How? First, you need to understand what misery is. Then, you do something about it.

Misery is "a SOS" from your soul. It's a result of feeling alone, stifled, overwhelmed and scared. Taken on their own, each of these emotions is challenging. When you experience them all at once, the result is often soul-crushing despair.

However, your situation isn't as hopeless as it might seem to you right now. The secret to getting out of being stuck in the muck of misery is to recognize that you can deal with each of these four emotions separately. By doing so, you loosen the bonds of your despair and move forward toward being genuinely happy again.

The following simple tips will help you deal with each of the four emotions of misery so you can get unstuck and…

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Feeling Heartbroken? 3 Ways to FINALLY Get Over Your Ex

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March 8, 2015

Drowning your sorrows in Häagen-Dazs and Kleenex isn’t the only way to get over your ex.

Feeling heartbroken over the loss of a relationship colors the whole world a shade of gloomy gray. Misery and grief are all you can recognize. And although this is normal, it sure doesn’t feel that way. Most of us want to get over heartbreak as quickly as possible.

The key to getting through the gloomy, tear-stained grayness of your heartbroken existence is to go through it, to feel what you're feeling, and to see your ex differently. Yeah, I know it's much easier for me to say that than it is to do, so here are 3 steps you can take (and why you should take them) to get over your ex.

1. Talk about your feelings; express yourself. The Huffington Post recently reported on some research Grace Larson did at Northwestern University. It turns out that it's a good idea to talk about your ex.

   Specifically, she found that people who talked in an interview setting about their emotions made more progress than those who didn't. It's important to note that this talking wasn't focused on problem-solving or blaming, but on perspectives. They would discuss things like when they first realized…

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Take More Responsibility For Your Breakup

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October 5, 2015

It might seem counter-intuitive, but taking responsibility is the best way to get over it and move on.

Breakups and divorces hurt - a lot. About all you can think about doing is making the pain stop. You might try drinking, going out with whomever you can and blaming your ex to make you feel better.

There is a certain logic to all this. The distractions of self-medicating and attention from the opposite sex will certainly take your mind off of your immediate pain, but no distraction will ever eliminate it. Also, blaming your ex for what you're feeling can make it seem easier to deal with because it's not your fault and there's nothing you can do. (Besides maybe get even with them or make them hurt as much as you do. But these are bad ideas no matter how appealing they might be right now.)

However, distracting yourself and placing blame are the fast track to more misery - not the relief you really want.

The only way to quickly and completely move on from a failed relationship is to take responsibility for it. Yup, you read that correctly. You need take responsibility for the breakup or divorce.

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In the Depths of Divorce Despair? Here’s How to Find Hope

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January 30, 2015

Simple ideas for finding the hope you need.

When you’re in the depths of divorce despair and you’re wondering whether or not you can stand the pain for one more second, you need to find hope. You need to find hope that you will stop hurting so much. And, you need to find hope that you can be happy again.

Some people find hope through prayer and their belief in something larger than themselves. They can find comfort in their faith. They know that no matter how alone they are feeling in any instant, they’re never truly alone.

But not everyone has this kind of faith and some find their faith faltering in the face of their grief.

How else can you find the hope you need to heal from your divorce?

You might find hope by spending time outdoors and connecting with nature. You might find hope by enjoying your children. You might find hope by playing with or cuddling your pet. You might find hope by talking with someone who understands the pain of divorce because they’ve been through it and survived to create a happier life for themselves. You might even find hope by reading inspirational quotes.

When I went through my…

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