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Life After Divorce

Celebrate Your Life After Divorce! Don't Just Get Through It.

Celebrate your life after divorce!

Three easy tips to start celebrating your life again.

If you were on the receiving end of the announcement “I want a divorce”, your self-esteem took a huge hit. For months your mind reeled with questions about why you weren’t good enough for them anymore. It was a horribly painful time.

The lucky ones figure out that they will be better off without their ex. They believe that being someplace and with someone who celebrates them and doesn’t just tolerate them is mandatory.

But for way too many the pain of rejection continues into their life after divorce - and this is the real tragedy.

Sure, the the end of your marriage is horribly sad, but replacing what can be a vibrant, joyful life for one of mere existence or even misery is an absolute disaster.

Now I’m not saying that you should ignore your feelings of sadness or loneliness. But what I am saying is you also need to allow other (more uplifting) emotions to have some of your time and attention too.

And you’re probably wondering something like, “Yeah, how do you do that when you’re consumed with hurt, anger and self-loathing?”

You do it bit by bit. AND you do it…

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Divorced? Here's How To Find The REAL Love Of Your Life

Engage both your heart and your head to find your perfect match after divorce.

Are you afraid of getting into another relationship because your marriage ended in divorce? But you're also afraid of being alone for the rest of your life? But maybe you can find the REAL love of your life if you can just get over the terror of getting stuck with the same kind of person you just divorced!

It's confusing isn't it? Believe it or not, what you're experiencing is pretty typical of what we all go through post-divorce. And there is a solution to the confusion. You can fix your picker and discover true love.

The solution is not very romantic, but it works. You need to treat choosing your next mate like you're interviewing them for a job.

Yup, you're going to interview for someone who will hold a very special place in your life and your heart. You're going to have to look past the initial romance of the flutterings of your heart (and past the great sex). The attraction, connection and sexual tension are just the minimum requirements.

To fix your picker you need to critically evaluate the character of the person. You must refuse to settle. And…

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5 Reasons You're An Easy Target Post-Divorce

If you're newly divorced, beware of these 5 ways you're an easy target for users and manipulators.

The prospect of dating after divorce is exciting!

It is also pretty terrifying because women newly back out there are easy targets for players and manipulators.

I felt all the thrill and terror about dating after my divorce and my excitement won - at first.

I married at 19 and didn't have intercourse until my wedding night. When I divorced (after nearly 18 years of marriage) I was totally unprepared for dating. I assumed it would be like it was in high school. Boy! Was I wrong...

Three months after my divorce was final, I fell in love. He just seemed to know me so well. It seemed like we'd known each other forever and I was eager to express my love for him sexually. I won't lie - I had a whole lot of fun doing it!

But things changed when my life got complicated and I needed some emotional support. He disappeared. I naively kept reaching out to him thinking he must be going through a tough time too. He had told me he loved me and I couldn't imagine that he would just vanish.

When I…

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Divorced? 3 Tips For Taking The Horrible Out Of Your Holidays

Your holidays may not be perfect this year, but you can still enjoy them!

Anticipating your first holidays after your divorce (or separation) is horrible. Everywhere you look there are reminders that this is a time for families to be together.

But that's not true for you. You won't ever have your family together again - at least not like it was. You won't always be able to spend the holidays with your kids because now you'll be taking turns with your ex.

And yet the holidays can still be magical for you. It will just take a bit of effort and a shift or two in perspective.

Look, I didn't believe my first holidays post-divorce would be anything but horrible either. I was wrong though. I wound up having a great holiday season and here are the three things I did to take the horrible out of my holidays.

  1. Accept the invitations (at least some of them) from your friends and extended family.I thought I would be alone and forgotten for the holidays because I felt completely forgettable. On the other hand, I didn't want to have a bunch of pity invitations either. But my friends and family reached out to me and showered me…

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Is It OK To Be Dating During Divorce?

My answer just might surprise you!

One of the loneliest times of your life is when you're getting divorced. One moment you're living with someone, having daily casual contact with someone you believe loves you.

And the next...you're on your own.

Sure, the kids and the pets may still be living with you (at least occasionally), but that's entirely different from sharing your life with a partner.

It can take a really long time to get your divorce legally finalized and the loneliness of being on your own can feel crippling. So it's only natural to be curious about dating. (You're probably also wondering if you're still lovable and attractive too, but that's a topic for another post.)

Unless the divorce laws where you live or the circumstances of your divorce would penalize you for dating before your divorce is finalized, casual dating before your divorce is final could be a great thing for you to do. That is IF you keep the following in mind:

  1. Dating has changed since the last time you were out there.I don't know about you, but I sure didn't find my first husband online. (Although that's exactly how I found my current one.) Yet online dating…

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