February 15, 2016
Three easy tips to start celebrating your life again.
If you were on the receiving end of the announcement “I want a divorce”, your self-esteem took a huge hit. For months your mind reeled with questions about why you weren’t good enough for them anymore. It was a horribly painful time.
The lucky ones figure out that they will be better off without their ex. They believe that being someplace and with someone who celebrates them and doesn’t just tolerate them is mandatory.
But for way too many the pain of rejection continues into their life after divorce - and this is the real tragedy.
Sure, the the end of your marriage is horribly sad, but replacing what can be a vibrant, joyful life for one of mere existence or even misery is an absolute disaster.
Now I’m not saying that you should ignore your feelings of sadness or loneliness. But what I am saying is you also need to allow other (more uplifting) emotions to have some of your time and attention too.
And you’re probably wondering something like, “Yeah, how do you do that when you’re consumed with hurt, anger and self-loathing?”
You do it bit by bit. AND you do it…
Read more: Celebrate Your Life After Divorce! Don't Just Get Through It.
November 9, 2015
Your holidays may not be perfect this year, but you can still enjoy them!
Anticipating your first holidays after your divorce (or separation) is horrible. Everywhere you look there are reminders that this is a time for families to be together.
But that's not true for you. You won't ever have your family together again - at least not like it was. You won't always be able to spend the holidays with your kids because now you'll be taking turns with your ex.
And yet the holidays can still be magical for you. It will just take a bit of effort and a shift or two in perspective.
Look, I didn't believe my first holidays post-divorce would be anything but horrible either. I was wrong though. I wound up having a great holiday season and here are the three things I did to take the horrible out of my holidays.
- Accept the invitations (at least some of them) from your friends and extended family.I thought I would be alone and forgotten for the holidays because I felt completely forgettable. On the other hand, I didn't want to have a bunch of pity invitations either. But my friends and family reached out to me and showered me…
Read more: Divorced? 3 Tips For Taking The Horrible Out Of Your Holidays