- October 28, 2015
If you're newly divorced, beware of these 5 ways you're an easy target for users and manipulators.
The prospect of dating after divorce is exciting!
It is also pretty terrifying because women newly back out there are easy targets for players and manipulators.
I felt all the thrill and terror about dating after my divorce and my excitement won - at first.
I married at 19 and didn't have intercourse until my wedding night. When I divorced (after nearly 18 years of marriage) I was totally unprepared for dating. I assumed it would be like it was in high school. Boy! Was I wrong...
Three months after my divorce was final, I fell in love. He just seemed to know me so well. It seemed like we'd known each other forever and I was eager to express my love for him sexually. I won't lie - I had a whole lot of fun doing it!
But things changed when my life got complicated and I needed some emotional support. He disappeared. I naively kept reaching out to him thinking he must be going through a tough time too. He had told me he loved me and I couldn't imagine that he would just vanish.
Read more: 5 Reasons You're An Easy Target Post-Divorce
- August 5, 2015
Sometimes those closest to you can be the most annoying when you’re getting divorced.
Divorce is hard. There's absolutely nothing easy about turning your life upside down and inside out.
Divorce is something most couples stumble into unexpectedly. You just can't prepare yourself for something like that, so when it happens just about everything feels unfamiliar and phony.
Of course you'll ask for help, guidance, or just a strong shoulder to lean on when the going gets tough. But, believe it or not, the very people you're likely to rely on may end up making your divorce even harder than necessary (or, at least, more annoying). So, what's a great tip for getting through divorce well?
Spend less of your precious time and energy listening to people you're better off ignoring.
You need to focus on making a new "normal" for yourself and your kids, healing from your divorce, and moving on with your life. All things you just can't do if the people in your life bring you down.
Who are these people you'd do better to ignore? Surprisingly, they're the exact people you usually turn to first:
1. Your ex
Most likely the things your ex is saying sounds like nagging or them trying to control you ("Haven't you talked with your attorney yet?" or…
Read more: 3 Annoying People To Ignore While You’re Getting Divorced