- October 3, 2016
Resolutions are definitely not just for the New Year.
Obviously, you’ve heard of New Year’s resolutions. They’re those little promises you make to yourself on January 1st each year that you rarely follow through on. You have great intentions, but they tend to evaporate toward the end of January or beginning of February when life goes back to “normal” again.
But that’s one of the really great things about divorce. Your life doesn’t go back to “normal.” In fact, it will NEVER be that “normal” you had while you were married ever again.
And that’s exactly why making post-divorce resolutions is so powerful. You already have to change how you live, so you might as well make your life after divorce as great as you can make it right?
What resolutions should you make?
Well there are the typical New Year’s resolutions:
- Lose weight – You’ve probably already lost enough weight because of the “divorce diet,” so this resolution won’t work.
- Stay fit and healthy – Staying fit and healthy is never a bad idea and might even be extra important if you lost too much weight on your “divorce diet.”
- Enjoy life to the fullest– Absolutely! This is one of the best resolutions you can…
Read more: 3 Post-Divorce Resolutions You Should Make (And Keep)
- September 12, 2016
Unlike divorces that happen earlier in life, it’s not the kids.
Every divorce is full of challenges, frustrations and problems. But gray divorces (those that occur when people divorce in their 50s and beyond) has a unique set of issues.
Most couples who divorce later in life are empty nesters. Their kids are out of the house and living their own lives.
You could say this simplifies a gray divorce because you don’t have to worry about child custody or child support or visitation. (But just because the kids are out of the house that doesn’t mean they won’t have difficulty with their parents’ divorce.)
But this seeming simplification for gray divorce is offset by a major complication – retirement.
When you’re over 50 and divorcing you’re at most 15-20 years from retirement. And all those retirement plans you’ve been making for the decades you’ve already been working? They dissolved along with your marriage.
It’s this decreased time to recover financially from divorce that makes gray divorces so challenging.
So what do you do? You think carefully about every decision you make.
After years of marriage, a couple’s shared assets are much greater and probably more complicated than those of couples who have shorter marriages.…
Read more: What Makes Gray Divorce Especially Difficult