- October 19, 2015
Even if you're scared, coming clean with your spouse is the best thing for both of you if you want to save your marriage.
Not everyone who has an affair set out with the intention to cheat. Most affairs just sort of happen. That's probably how you wound up in this situation - by accident.
Part of you thinks it was a very happy accident because you've not felt this alive in years. Then there's the other part - the part that's guilt-ridden about betraying the trust of your spouse.
It's the guilty part that's got you wondering if you should come clean with your spouse and admit your infidelity. But it's also got you fearful of the additional guilt you'd feel if you saw (and had to deal with) your mate's reaction.
Most people in your shoes feel trapped and that just sucks.
My guess is that if your spouse made you feel as good as you do with this other person you never would have cheated in the first place. Heck, I'll even bet that your spouse used to make you feel this good, but somehow life got in the way and your relationship changed. And this just adds to the misery you're feeling.…