- September 11, 2017
Even when everybody else thinks it should be obvious to you, it rarely is.
As confusing as it is for most people to decide if they need to get a divorce or not, there are three situations that require you get a divorce if you (and your kids) are to live a healthy life.
- Your spouse has an addiction that they refuse to get treatment for despite your repeated requests.
- Your spouse is abusing you or your children.
- Your marriage is a horrible example for your children AND you’re willing to let your spouse parent the kids on their own.
If you’re not in one of these situations, it can seem pretty clear cut that these marriages need to end.
The trouble is that if you’re in one of them, it’s not nearly so easy. These situations usually develop over time. It’s like the story of the frog in the pot, things change gradually over time and you don’t really notice how bad things really are. You need someone looking in from the outside to give you a different perspective.
Unfortunately, you probably don’t have anyone who can look at your marriage with an unbiased eye because they’ve watched the gradual change in your marriage too.…
Read more: How To Know When You MUST Get A Divorce
- May 2, 2017
Are you REALLY thinking about their happiness?
Deciding if divorce is the best solution to the troubles you’re facing in your marriage is never easy.
In fact, it’s gut wrenching.
You’ve invested years in building a life together and the thought of starting over really isn’t appealing. It’s frightening!
But you’re not happy. You know you deserve happiness and so does your spouse.
And your kids deserve it too … especially your kids.
That’s the biggest problem: Your kids deserve happiness.
And right now, your belief is that they will never be happy if you get divorced.
Many couples decide that they can’t divorce because of their children. They believe that their kids deserve to grow up in an intact family, and that anything less will destroy them.
These couples choose to remain mired in their miserable marriages, for the sake of the kids.
Unfortunately, choosing martyrdom for the kids is a really bad decision.
If you choose to stick things out just for your kids, you can expect to face a number of problems.
Here are five reasons to reconsider staying together for the kids:
- Your kids will learn that marriage is about separateness, not togetherness.
By staying together for their sake, you’ll be teaching them…
Read more: 5 Reasons Staying Together For The Kids Is The WORST Idea Ever