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Unhappy Marriage?

4 Simple Tips For Preventing Divorce

Although there are no guarantees, these tips could make all the difference.

Every day people tell me stories of their struggles with learning that their spouse wants a divorce (or is at least strongly considering it). These people struggle because divorce is the last thing they want.

They know that although it takes two people to decide to get married, it only takes one to decide to divorce and that they desperately want to change their spouse’s mind. And so they ask me, “How can I save my marriage?”

The first thing I do when these people ask me for help is to let them know that the only way to have a shot at fixing things is to look at themselves – not their spouse – and get into action. Then I share the fact that even if they do get into action and follow my advice perfectly, there’s no guarantee they’ll be able to save their marriage. Finally, I tell them that if they don’t at least try, they’re almost certainly headed for divorce.

And for those people, like you, who are brave enough to look at themselves and do their absolute best to save their marriage, I give them the following advice.

  1. Focus…

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5 Reasons Staying Together For The Kids Is The WORST Idea Ever

Are you REALLY thinking about their happiness?

Deciding if divorce is the best solution to the troubles you’re facing in your marriage is never easy.

In fact, it’s gut wrenching.

You’ve invested years in building a life together and the thought of starting over really isn’t appealing. It’s frightening!

But you’re not happy. You know you deserve happiness and so does your spouse.

And your kids deserve it too … especially your kids.

That’s the biggest problem: Your kids deserve happiness.

And right now, your belief is that they will never be happy if you get divorced.

Many couples decide that they can’t divorce because of their children. They believe that their kids deserve to grow up in an intact family, and that anything less will destroy them.

These couples choose to remain mired in their miserable marriages, for the sake of the kids.

Unfortunately, choosing martyrdom for the kids is a really bad decision.

If you choose to stick things out just for your kids, you can expect to face a number of problems.

Here are five reasons to reconsider staying together for the kids:

  1. Your kids will learn that marriage is about separateness, not togetherness.

    By staying together for their sake, you’ll be teaching them…

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How To Make An Unhappy Marriage Happy Again

If you know how to make an unhappy marriage happy again, your marriage can last forever.

These four tips will help you make your marriage much, much happier!

Living in an unhappy marriage impacts your entire life. The sadness that pervade your home life isn’t something you leave behind when you go off to work in the morning. It’s something you carry with you 24/7/365.

The weight of your misery saps your energy. It decreases your creativity and sucks the joy right out of your life. It can cause you to start wondering, “Is my marriage over?” And your unhappiness can even make you more vulnerable to having an affair.

Allowing yourself to continue just existing in an unhappy marriage is heartbreaking. It’s not what you truly want, much less deserve. You deserve to have an incredible marriage – one that brings you tremendous joy just like yours did in the beginning.

All marriages have rough spots. Rough spots don’t have to mean you’re doomed to spending a miserable lifetime together or that you’re headed for a divorce. The rough spots are just warnings that the two of you don’t pull together as much as necessary to more easily manage them. And because you don’t turn strongly enough toward each other to resolve the challenges you face; the result is that you’re…

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How Does An Unhappy Marriage Affect You?

How does an unhappy marriage affect you? It’s not pretty.

It’s pretty scary what the stress of a bad marriage can do to you.

You got married because you fell in love and had dreams of living happily ever after. But somewhere along the way marital bliss turned to marital blah or worse.

You might even occasionally toy with the idea of calling it quits or half-heartedly attempt to work on your marriage. Instead of making any significant changes, what you end up doing is staying. You stick it out because the thought of doing anything different is just too big to deal with.

It might seem like this is the path of least resistance, but did you know the impact of your unhappy marriage is greater – a lot greater – than just feeling meh about your spouse? The stress of a bad marriage affects you physically, mentally and emotionally.

How does an unhappy marriage affect you physically?

  • Weakens your immune system (source)
  • Wounds are slower to heal (source)
  • Increases you blood pressure (source)
  • Increases your cholesterol (source)
  • Makes you gain weight (source)
  • Puts you at an increased risk for heart disease, cancer, arthritis, type 2 diabetes, osteoporosis, and arterial calcification (source)
  • Causes digestive disorders (source)
  • Causes hormone imbalance (source)
  • Causes poor sleep (source)
  • Shrinks your brain…

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How To End A Miserable Marriage (Without Feeling Guilty At All)

It’s time to stop bullying yourself into staying…

One of the reasons making the decision to divorce is so painful – even when you know that leaving your marriage is absolutely the right thing to do – is that you believe doing so is wrong or bad.

So instead of sitting down with your spouse and having an honest discussion about ending your marriage, you remain stuck in your head (and your unhappy marriage) wondering how to divorce without feeling guilty.

Guilt is an emotional anchor and can prevent you from taking the actions you need to take care of yourself.

It’s tremendously difficult to shed because it’s based on the expectations you have of yourself. Expectations like being an amazing parent to your kids, being true to your spiritual and religious beliefs, keeping the promises you make to your spouse and yourself, and the family and friends who love and respect you.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with these expectations – until you use them against yourself as a reason to feel guilty about even considering getting divorced, despite knowing the only way for you to feel true happiness is to leave your marriage.

So here you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Paralyzed…

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