May 13, 2016
Not all romantic quotes are true. Some sow the seeds of discontent or even divorce.
‘Tis the season for weddings. And if you’re like most people you probably wonder how many of the couples who walk down the aisle are going to make it – especially if you’re one of the couples walking down the aisle!
Like anything in life, beliefs and expectations have a lot to do with whether or not a couple will make it.
That’s why when I saw this list of romantic quotes about love and marriage that I got worried. Many of these quotes romanticize love and marriage so much that anyone who takes them to heart will have a difficult (or maybe impossible) time keeping their marriage intact.
Let me give you a few of examples.
“That’s when you know for sure that somebody loves you. They figure out what you need and they give it to you – without you asking.” Adriana Trigiani
OMG! Really?! This is an absolute recipe for disaster. Marriages take work and maintaining love takes work. The obsession of new love wears off over time and an expectation that your spouse will continue to read your mind and know exactly what you need exactly…
Read more: Blind Belief In Romantic Quotes Could Destroy Your Marriage
April 21, 2016
Including your spouse?
Love is a funny thing. We’ve heard all our lives that it’s "patient and kind, not envious, boastful or proud. Love doesn’t dishonor. It isn’t self-seeking, easily angered or resentful. It always protects, trusts, hopes perseveres and never fails." Oh, and that love rejoices in truth. (Yes, this is a paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 13.)
And then there’s our marriage vows that say, "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health."
But do you notice? ... In those definitions, we only cover how we should demonstrate love to another. No one's teaching us how to receive love from our spouse(or anyone else for that matter).
Why does this matter? Because, when you don't know how to receive love, you end up settling. You settle for meh — for 'fine.' And you might even settle for poisonous, violent, and horrible.
You do so because you convince yourself that the problem is you — that somehow you don't act loving enough. So you try even harder and harder to love the other person, hoping that if you get good enough at it, that person will love you back.
But here’s a harsh but loving truth:Some people are just not good for you (and never will be) and you…
Read more: Some People Aren't Good For You (No Matter How Much You Love Them)