Unhappy Marriage?

Blind Belief In Romantic Quotes Could Destroy Your Marriage

Not all romantic quotes are true. Some sow the seeds of discontent or even divorce.

‘Tis the season for weddings. And if you’re like most people you probably wonder how many of the couples who walk down the aisle are going to make it – especially if you’re one of the couples walking down the aisle!

Like anything in life, beliefs and expectations have a lot to do with whether or not a couple will make it.

That’s why when I saw this list of romantic quotes about love and marriage that I got worried. Many of these quotes romanticize love and marriage so much that anyone who takes them to heart will have a difficult (or maybe impossible) time keeping their marriage intact.

Let me give you a few of examples.

“That’s when you know for sure that somebody loves you. They figure out what you need and they give it to you – without you asking.” Adriana Trigiani

OMG! Really?! This is an absolute recipe for disaster. Marriages take work and maintaining love takes work. The obsession of new love wears off over time and an expectation that your spouse will continue to read your mind and know exactly what you need exactly…

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9 Ways A Man Can Make A Decision About Divorcing The Mother Of His Children

Use these tips to determine if breaking up your family is the right answer.

Wondering if you need to leave your marriage is torturous.

Questions swirl in your mind and intrude in your day as you wrestle with the decision. Would I be better off without her? Can we afford to get divorced? Could I find happiness (or at least satisfaction) with another woman? And then the one that haunts you the most is How will divorce affect the kids?

Divorcing your wife is one thing. She’s an adult. She has the ability to take care of herself and move on with her life.

But divorcing the mother of your children is another thing entirely. Because you know ending your marriage to their mother will impact your children for the rest of their lives AND you know it will change your relationship with them forever.

You’ve done some research and virtually every reputable source you can find says that divorce negatively impacts children. So maybe you should stick it out until they’re grown. Give them the gift of being a man and toughing it out so they’ll have the solid foundation of an intact family.

But what if the example you set for them by…

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Do This One Thing To Have A Happy Marriage

Could it really be this simple? AB-SO-LUTE-LY!

I get it. You’re incredibly busy.

You have a demanding job that requires your complete attention. Your team, your customers – not to mention your boss are all counting on you to perform at your best. After all, that’s who you are – a real achiever who loves what they do despite the long stressful days.

Then there’s home. The kids are involved in tons of activities and you’re their chauffer. You’ve got home maintenance chores (and cleaning) to do. Your pets need to be cared for. You’ve got clothes to wash and put away. Oh yeah, and then there’s the grocery shopping and meal preparation.

Every second of your day is accounted for and all you want from your spouse is for them to be your helpmate and lover without making more demands on your time. Yet for some reason that’s not happening. And when you think about it, it hasn’t happened for a long time.

Your relationship is strained. And the strain is making it harder for you to get through the rest of your life.

What if there was a simple answer that would make your relationship blossom again?

What if your relationship became the…

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Some People Aren't Good For You (No Matter How Much You Love Them)

Including your spouse?

Love is a funny thing. We’ve heard all our lives that it’s "patient and kind, not envious, boastful or proud. Love doesn’t dishonor. It isn’t self-seeking, easily angered or resentful. It always protects, trusts, hopes perseveres and never fails." Oh, and that love rejoices in truth. (Yes, this is a paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 13.)

And then there’s our marriage vows that say, "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health."

But do you notice? ... In those definitions, we only cover how we should demonstrate love to another. No one's teaching us how to receive love from our spouse(or anyone else for that matter).

Why does this matter? Because, when you don't know how to receive love, you end up settling. You settle for meh — for 'fine.' And you might even settle for poisonous, violent, and horrible.

You do so because you convince yourself that the problem is you — that somehow you don't act loving enough. So you try even harder and harder to love the other person, hoping that if you get good enough at it, that person will love you back. 

But here’s a harsh but loving truth:Some people are just not good for you (and never will be) and you…

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Are You Doomed To A Marriage Of Unhappily Ever After?

If you continue doing these 19 things, you are guaranteeing yourself an unhappy marriage (and life).

Most couples enter marriage seeing the world and especially each other through rose-colored glasses. They believe their love is enough to carry them through to living their dreams of happily ever after with each other.

Unfortunately, as time goes by the rosiness of the world (and each other) fades. Their marriage isn’t as happy or fun as they imagined on their wedding day. And they’re left worrying that maybe they’re doomed to an unhappy marriage or, even worse, become one of the 50% of couples who divorce.

If any of this sounds painfully familiar to you, don’t worry. You’re not condemned to a life of misery or even divorce.

You can bring the joy back to your marriage, but it will take work. So roll up your sleeves and get ready to make you and your marriage better.

Here are the 19 things you must stop doing right now if you’re committed to bringing the joy back to your marriage:

  1. Communicating with your spouse over social media.A marriage is between the two of you. It’s not between the two of you and all your friends, family, casual acquaintances or…

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