October 30, 2015
There's no EASY way to know when to leave, but there is an easier way.
At one time or another, almost every married person I know (including my husband and me) has questioned whether or not to call it quits.
It's an incredibly painful question to ask yourself because the only way to answer it is to dig down deep, way past the superficial hurts.
And for most of us, there's no black and white answer about whether you're ready to leave your marriage or not.
There are just too many things to weigh and consider as you figure out what's best for you (and your kids).
At its heart, your question is really about values, respect and what you fundamentally want for your life. (No one besides you will know how to answer this question for you.)
However, sometimes by looking at your marriage from different angles, you can gain clarity.
Here are six key questions to consider as you determine the larger question of whether you're ready to end your marriage, work to make it better, or just accept it as it is:
1. How is your sex life?
Sex is an important part of marriage. At its best, sex is a baring…
Read more: 6 Tough Questions You Must Ask BEFORE Leaving Your Marriage
September 4, 2015
After you know what you want, it's time to start laying the foundation to make your unhappy marriage happy.
As I mentioned in Part 1, if you're in an unhappy marriage you're probably feeling trapped and hopeless.
But you can create some hope that things will get better. All you need to do is create your idea of what "happily ever after" means to you now and everyday find one thing that's good about your marriage.
(If you haven't read Part 1 yet, you can read it here.)
Now that you know what you want from your marriage, you can start laying the foundation for your new "happily ever after". Begin by asking yourself what would you have to do to get it if you really want to change your unhappy marriage to a happy one.
My guess is you'll discover these 5 areas (connection, caring, congruence, competence, and freedom) are the most critical for you to take action in.
- Connection - Of all our relationships, our intimate relationship has the most impact on our happiness. We all have a deep-seated need for connection. It's one of the things that makes us human. According to Brendon Burchard in The Charge, "Our desire to bond and belong outweighs…
Read more: Unhappy Marriage? Here's How to Make It Better (Part 2)