- April 21, 2016
Including your spouse?
Love is a funny thing. We’ve heard all our lives that it’s "patient and kind, not envious, boastful or proud. Love doesn’t dishonor. It isn’t self-seeking, easily angered or resentful. It always protects, trusts, hopes perseveres and never fails." Oh, and that love rejoices in truth. (Yes, this is a paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 13.)
And then there’s our marriage vows that say, "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health."
But do you notice? ... In those definitions, we only cover how we should demonstrate love to another. No one's teaching us how to receive love from our spouse(or anyone else for that matter).
Why does this matter? Because, when you don't know how to receive love, you end up settling. You settle for meh — for 'fine.' And you might even settle for poisonous, violent, and horrible.
You do so because you convince yourself that the problem is you — that somehow you don't act loving enough. So you try even harder and harder to love the other person, hoping that if you get good enough at it, that person will love you back.
But here’s a harsh but loving truth:Some people are just not good for you (and never will be) and you…