Looking For Signs You Should Get A Divorce?

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August 18, 2015

If your marriage is like this...you may be looking at the end.

Coming face-to-face with the question "Should I get a divorce?" is one of the most sobering events of a person's life. No matter how you answer the question, your answer will not only change your life, but the lives of your spouse and kids too. There's just a lot to consider in trying to answer this question.

So it makes sense to search for some guidance on how to make this critical decision. This is one of those moments in life when it's WISE to ask for help. (I sure did when I started thinking about divorce.)

Unless you or your kids are being abused by your spouse, your spouse has untreated addictions, or the example of marriage you're providing for your children is horrible, the signs you should get a divorce are generally murky.

The truth is the signs you should get a divorce are often murky because what's a deal breaker for one couple, is just a bump in the road for another.

If you're asking yourself "should I get a divorce" chances are it's more than a bump in the road. BUT, you have to look closely to…

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3 Definite Signs You Should Get A Divorce

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August 10, 2015

Yes, there really are some circumstances that require you to get a divorce.

Very few marriages can be characterized as 100% "happily ever after". Every marriage hits bumps in the road. Every marriage requires effort to make them work.

But sometimes no matter how much work you put in it just doesn't seem like things get better. Or if they do get better, it's only for a little while. And that's what's brought you to this point - to wondering if you should get a divorce.

And yet it's so very difficult to know if divorce is the right answer for you. After all, you made a commitment when you got married. You've probably invested years in your marriage. And you might even have children together. But there are three situations that demand that you get a divorce:

1. Abuse If you or your children are suffering physical, sexual, or emotional abuse from your spouse, you need to get a divorce. Absolutely. Positively. Period.
   
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Unhappy Marriage? Here's How to Make It Better (Part 1)

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August 12, 2015

You have more power to change your marriage than you realize.

Living in an unhappy marriage can feel like you're living in a trap. You're stuck in a situation that you wish could be better, but deep down you're afraid that this is as good as it gets.

Most of us marry with some expectation that we and our spouse will always be as attuned to each other as we are when we take our vows. But very few married couples continue dating, flirting and wanting to learn more about each other on a daily basis as they did before they said "I do". And it's perfectly understandable because the reality of married life (and parenthood) are WAY different than the realities of being single and in love.

So, how can you take your unhappy marriage and breathe some happiness into it?

The first step is to get real about what your idea of "happily ever after" is now. It will be different than it was when you got married because now you know what living with your spouse is like, what the daily challenges of running your family and home are, and what trying to live a fulfilling life as an individual within a…

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5 Brutal Signs You Are One Seriously LOUSY Spouse

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June 26, 2015

Your partner isn’t the problem, sweetheart … YOU are.

A marriage takes work — lots of it — and from each spouse. And the rewards for your effort are: happiness, contentment, peace, and, of course, loving and feeling loved. 

But, what happens when you begin to question whether the hard work is worth it? What happens when the bad times significantly outweigh the good (and have for a long time)? The rewards suddenly seem more like a pipe dream than a reality. 

What usually happens once someone reaches this point is … they blame their spouse.

They blame their spouse for being a sorry, excuse for a mate and they fuel their resentment of their spouse with fantasies about divorce.

But, whoa ... wait a minute. Let's back this divorce train up for just a moment. True, being married takes work, but it's nothing compared to the effort and work that divorce requires. Getting and then being divorced is at least ten times more frustrating and infuriating than the common annoyances of marriage. Once the marriage ends, you and your spouse become straight up adversaries, who must now come to some kind of agreement about: child custody, parenting, finances, and possessions. And there's nothing easy about that.

Also, you don't just get…

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