Dealing With Grief

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Take More Responsibility For Your Breakup

By Dr. Karen Finn / September 28, 2015

It might seem counter-intuitive, but taking responsibility is the best way to get over it and move on. Breakups and divorces hurt – a lot. About all you can think about doing is making the pain stop. You might try drinking, going out with whomever you can and blaming your ex to make you feel…

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Feeling Heartbroken? 3 Ways to FINALLY Get Over Your Ex

By Dr. Karen Finn / March 8, 2015

Drowning your sorrows in Häagen-Dazs and Kleenex isn’t the only way to get over your ex. Feeling heartbroken over the loss of a relationship colors the whole world a shade of gloomy gray. Misery and grief are all you can recognize. And although this is normal, it sure doesn’t feel that way. Most of us…

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In the Depths of Divorce Despair? Here’s How to Find Hope

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 30, 2015

Simple ideas for finding the hope you need. When you’re in the depths of divorce despair and you’re wondering whether or not you can stand the pain for one more second, you need to find hope. You need to find hope that you will stop hurting so much. And, you need to find hope that…

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What Makes Grief After Divorce So Hard?

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 5, 2015

The surprising reason is happiness. A divorce can feel like a tornado has come through and wiped from the face of the earth everything you thought your life was. You’re walking around in a state of shock trying to make sense of what has happened. And you’re just not finding much of anything to rebuild…

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What Are You Bringing to Your Divorce?

By Dr. Karen Finn / March 23, 2014

Whatever you bring with you to your divorce will color your experience. Make sure you’re bringing what you want to have! My husband and I are going through the process of selling our home and buying a new one. If you’ve ever gone through the sale and purchase of a home, you know how stressful…

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How To Deal With Loneliness Of Divorce

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 6, 2014

Your divorce will probably be one of the most intense emotional experiences you’ll ever face. It sure was for me. I had all these powerful emotions hit me one after another, often in a confusing and frightening way. Sound familiar? The world of divorce can feel like a tornado has come through your life and…

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Divorce Doesn’t Make You A Failure

By Dr. Karen Finn / October 7, 2013

Divorce changes the trajectory of your life, but it doesn’t have to define it. Dictionary.com’s first definition of failure is “an act or instance of failing or proving unsuccessful; lack of success.” According to this definition, divorce is a failure – the failure of the marriage. Yet what I see in each of my clients…

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Don’t Fall For These Lies About Divorce Recovery

By Dr. Karen Finn / September 4, 2013

The biggest lies you’ve heard about divorce recovery… debunked! Maybe “lies” is a bit strong; maybe the words “myths” or “stories” work better. Regardless, there is a lot of pervasive misinformation (and bad advice) about divorce out there. So I’m here to help debunk it—because divorce is hard enough without accidently making it even harder.  I’ve…

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Facts And Myths About Anger

By Dr. Karen Finn / June 10, 2013

Have you ever noticed that there’s all kinds of conflicting information “out there” about anger? You’ve probably heard that frequent anger is deadly. Maybe you’ve heard that anger is an important part of getting through your divorce. You might think that anger is bad and you shouldn’t express it. You’ve probably heard that anger needs…

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Who Can You Trust?

By Dr. Karen Finn / May 11, 2013

To heal from divorce, you must learn to trust again. Divorce is the result of a betrayal of a trust. A trust we place in another to love, support and care about us. It’s also a trust we encourage our partner to place in us – to trust us to love them, to support them…

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The 4 Phases Of Divorce Recovery

By Dr. Karen Finn / March 25, 2013

Divorce is one of the most stressful life changes you can experience. When I went through my divorce, I felt as if I had been tied up, blindfolded and strapped into the front car of a run-away roller coaster. It was terrifying! What made it so bad was that I didn’t know what to expect…

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How To Calm Your FEARs

By Dr. Karen Finn / March 17, 2013

When I got divorced, FEAR was my constant companion. I was afraid of almost everything and I spent a lot of time imagining catastrophes that could happen to me. Some of the catastrophes I vividly pictured were being trapped in my home by a tornado (that was the happy version – the worst version was…

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