Life After Divorce

How To Be Able To Look Back And Say, "My Life Got Better After Divorce"

Man giving 2 thumbs up because he can say, "My life got better after divorce."

The process of divorce — the lead-up, the decision, the legal circus — is often more about getting out of unhappiness than stepping into happiness. Being able to say, “My life got better after divorce” may be a long time coming. But holding onto that vision can fuel your healing and progress.

If you’re the one initiating the split, you may be driven by the hope of a happier life after the divorce. You may be making plans in your daydream hours, if only to give yourself energy through a difficult and draining process.

Whether or not you want the divorce, you may also be plagued by the fear that your life will never be good again. Insecurities about your lovability, self-worth, relationship skills, financial security, employment, lifestyle, parenting, and social life can wreak havoc on hope.

But there are ways to set yourself up for both happiness and success.

And there are ways to strengthen your resolve en route to the day when you will say, with retrospect, “My life got better after divorce.”

  • Grieve. 

    It’s certainly not the part of divorce you look forward to or think of as making your life better. But dealing with grief after divorce really isn’t an option.

    It’s also…

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7 Uplifting Life-After-Divorce Quotes

Notepad with one of the best life-after-divorce quotes: What is coming, is better than what’s gone.

Sometimes there’s no way to put your feelings into words. Divorce can cast a pretty long shadow over your vision for the future and leave you feeling hopeless. That’s when it’s time to turn to the authors, the poets, and the been-there-survived-it veterans of loss for some uplifting life-after-divorce quotes.

While cleverly crafted proverbs can’t wave a magic wand of healing over your pain, they can offer clarity and food for thought.

Here are 7 uplifting life-after-divorce quotes to get you looking at the positive side of your new life.

  1. When the wrong people leave your life, the right things start to happen. (Zig Ziglar)
  2. We’ve all heard the adage that “you are who you hang around.” And any time spent diving into self-help books will remind you that the people in your life are simply mirrors of yourself. 

    In other words, the company you keep has a profound influence on how you think and on the choices you make. 

    It’s also a reflection of your influence. 

    Unfortunately, marrying someone doesn’t guarantee the quality or integrity of his or her influence. It also doesn’t guarantee that your relationship will bring out the best in one another. 

    A person doesn’t have…

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6 Tips For Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce

Woman, who’s struggling with rebuilding her life after divorce, outside with her 3 children.

Yes, you can do this.

Oh, the rollercoaster of it all. The falling in love, the wedding, the children, the disenchantment, the fighting, the falling out of love...the rebuilding life after divorce. 

Remember your first rollercoaster ride? You climbed into your seat, fastened up, and threw your hands into the air and caution to the wind. And then the drop. That gravity vacuum that sucked the wind out of you and left you clinging, screaming, and wondering what you were thinking.

By the time the ride came to a screeching halt, your hair had given up any claim to a good day. And you dizzily walked away, wondering what had just happened.

Ending a marriage can feel a lot like that. You may not even have a firm grasp on how you got here, but suddenly the ride has ended and you’re climbing out.

Rebuilding life after divorce is like walking away from that ride you were so excited to try. Your legs are wobbly, your body almost numb. And your mind is reliving all the drops and loops while trying to process the unusual feelings coursing through your veins.

But somehow you know you will be standing in line for another ride.…

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6 Cathartic And Inspiring Life-After-Divorce Movies

Woman sitting on her sofa using her remote to select a life-after-divorce movie to watch.

It’s time to break out the popcorn (and maybe a box of tissues).

Sometimes you have to take therapy into your own hands – and to the movies. You may not be able to part ways with your shrink just yet, but you also may need a mini-reprieve from the format. That’s where those classic life-after-divorce movies come in. They can be both cathartic and inspiring – and a consoling reminder that you’re not alone.

There’s a reason people still flock to the oldies-but-goodies. Time may be on a fast trajectory, but emotions are timeless, especially when it comes to life-altering experiences like divorce.

If you’re drowning in your own tears or wondering whom to invite to your pity party, grab your remote and fire up your movie app.

Whether you need a big dose of the ha-ha’s or an excuse to emote into a box of tissues, Hollywood has answered the call.

Here are 6 cathartic and inspiring life-after-divorce movies to start your viewing marathon.

  1. First Wives’ Club (1996)

  2. Sometimes a little comedic revenge – at least on screen – is good for the aching soul. And, when it comes to revenge in life-after-divorce movies, no one does it better than Elise (Goldie Hawn),…

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What To Do If Your Life Is A Mess After Divorce

Man moving out and coming to grips with the fact his life is a mess after divorce.

It’s possible for you to love your life again.

It’s a tricky, devious, exhausting struggle, this whole getting-over-a-relationship thing. And if you have been married, you know there is a lot more at stake than just a romantic hit-and-run. Marriage means you were vested in something bigger than just “two people in love.” So, if your life is a mess after divorce, it’s no wonder. 

Think about what it’s like to pack up and move from a house you have lived in for 10, 20, 30 years. Now imagine the task as an effort to downsize. 

Everything that was once neatly in its place (on cleaning day, anyway) is now...well...everywhere. Essentials, non-essentials, mementos, family heirlooms, favorites-for-no-good-reason. It’s all unearthed, waiting for a decision to be made on its destiny.

Your home is a mess. Your life is a mess. After divorce, this metaphor comes to life in every area of your existence. You don’t feel as if you are “just moving” (or that they are just moving) -- you feel as if you have been foreclosed on.

You have to move out of and move into. You have to divide, negotiate, relinquish. 

You have to explain to the children…

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