May 1, 2017
Despite the trauma, you can beat the triggers of betrayal.
Discovering that your spouse has had or is having an affair is one of the cruelest betrayals you can ever suffer.
The person you chose to trust implicitly threw your trust away as if it meant nothing to them – as if you meant nothing to them.
Whether you decide to work on repairing your marriage or to divorce, you must figure out how to heal.
Probably one of the most difficult parts is the unexpected way seemingly innocuous situations can catapult you into chaos because something about it triggers you.
In these moments, the emotions and memories of your spouse’s infidelity come flooding back and everything else fades into the background. You’re hardly aware of how you’re behaving because your sole goal is to stop the pain and fear and to simply survive.
And living your life in fear of being triggered this is no way to live your life long-term. You need to have a way for dealing with the triggers that allows you to heal and move forward.
Here are the five best tips for surviving infidelity triggers:
- Accept that triggers are normal.
Until you’ve completely come to terms with…
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April 10, 2017
It doesn’t matter which side of the infidelity you were on, you’ve got to work to fix things.
One of you cheated…and one of you was betrayed.
Surviving infidelity isn’t an easy thing because it strikes to the core of what every relationship needs – trust.
Yet, you’ve made it through the initial pain and guilt of the discovery. You’ve tearfully talked through the options and decided together that you want to make your relationship work.
You both know that the affair was a symptom of something else that wasn’t working and you’re committed to resolving things because what you have (or can have) together is worth saving, worth fixing, and worth working on yourself for.
Yes, both of you will need to work on yourselves to survive the infidelity and restore your relationship, but what you need to do will depend on your role.
If you are the one who strayed, your tasks revolve around completely ending the other relationship and loving your spouse. Specifically, your five high-level tasks are:
- Cut all contact with the other person.
As long as the potential for temptation exists, your partner will never, ever be able to relax or trust you being around the other person. Without doubt, the…
Read more: How To Survive Infidelity And Restore Your Relationship