Surviving Infidelity

Why Do Married Men Cheat And Stay Married?

Man playing with his ring wondering, “Why do married men cheat and still stay married?”

Be prepared, these reasons may infuriate you or produce feelings of empathy.

It’s a common question today that seems to go hand-in-hand with the questions about respect between the genders that we’re still struggling with as a society: Why do married men cheat and still stay married?

In my years working as a divorce coach, I’ve met several men who fall into this category. These men have a paramour that their wife doesn’t know about. And these men choose to stay married despite their infidelity and the fact that something must obviously be missing from their marriages.

What I’ve discovered is that there are three main reasons why married men say they cheat and yet remain married:

  1. Some unfaithful men still love their wives and yet need something more.

    The something more they crave could be excitement, support, sex or any other need that they believe their wives are just not able to provide.

    In some cases, they have asked their wives for what they need. And for some reason, these men – either correctly or incorrectly – believe their wives have denied their requests.

    In other cases, the men have not asked their wives. And the reason they haven’t usually has to do with pre-judging…

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If You’re Wondering, “Can I Survive Infidelity?” Here’s Your Answer

Woman struggling with the painful question, “Can I survive infidelity?”

Surviving infidelity requires that you make it though the emotional pain and rebuild trust.

The dagger of infidelity cuts deeply and scars in layers. It shreds your trust, hopes and dreams. It changes everything.

“Can I survive infidelity?” you may ask. If you are on the receiving end of your partner’s unfaithfulness, you probably feel as if you have been dealt a death blow. In one careless moment he or she has wiped out your marriage and ruined your life...forever.

If you are the unfaithful partner, you may be feeling an equal gravity, but for different reasons. “Can I survive infidelity?” may be a question more akin to “What have I done? And how do I get back what may be lost forever?”

Infidelity, without question, comes with heavy consequences. It can hit your life with the unexpected force of a tornado, and render equally disastrous effects.

A tornado doesn’t survey its target area before wiping it out. It doesn’t seek out victims based on income, home size or marital bliss. And, while infidelity certainly isn’t a random act of nature, it is equally non-partisan in its demographics.

Think infidelity is limited to unhappy marriages? Convinced you can see it coming for some…

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15 Surviving Infidelity Quotes To Help You Heal

One of fifteen surviving infidelity quotes.

Whether you were betrayed, or you cheated, these surviving infidelity quotes can help you move past the pain.

Dealing with betrayal is very difficult because it triggers an avalanche of emotions for both of you.

If you cheated, chances are you’re wracked with guilt and confusion, yet yearning for your spouse’s forgiveness and love.

If you were betrayed, chances are you’re struggling with feeling insecure, unloved, and unwanted. You’re probably also wondering if you can ever truly trust your spouse again.

Whichever side of the infidelity you’re on, your emotions are running rampant because you and your marriage are facing a huge challenge – how to move forward. This is one of the most painful and confusing situations you’ll ever face.

In fact, sometimes the pain is so great that you can feel isolated and lost in it.

These 15 surviving infidelity quotes will help you find your way back from the fog of your confusion and pain, so you can move forward instead of remaining mired in the repercussions of the affair.

Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.

~Unknown~

When a marriage is rocked by infidelity, both partners suffer. You’ll both feel a distinct difference between the…

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What To Do If You’re Thinking About Cheating To Get Out Of A Relationship

Man thinking about cheating to get out of a relationship.

Simply cheating won’t solve your problem. You can end your relationship in a better way.

If your relationship is over. It’s over. And yet you’re thinking about cheating to get out of it.

If you’ve already decided to end the relationship, why cheat?

There are three reasons why people believe cheating to get out of a relationship is a good idea.

  1. They’re afraid of telling their spouse that they want to end it.

    Owning up to the fact that you’re done with your marriage or relationship is difficult – especially if you’re afraid of how your mate will respond.

  2. They think their partner will end the relationship for them when s/he finds out.

    Cheating so that your spouse or partner will end the relationship for you is still avoiding owning up to the fact that you’re done.

  3. It’s the only “acceptable” reason to end your relationship.

    It’s unfortunate, but true that many people believe that being miserable in marriage despite working on things is not enough of a reason to end things.

Despite these reasons, cheating to get out of a relationship is a bad idea. It may solve your immediate issue of wanting out, but your mate, your children (if you have any), your…

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How Infidelity Can Save A Marriage (Yes, It’s Possible!)

How infidelity can save a marriage instead of destroying it.

Are you both open-minded and determined enough to consider this path instead?

Cheating isn’t always a death sentence for a marriage. In many cases, cheating is a catalyst for strengthening a marital relationship.

If you’re interested in learning how infidelity can save a marriage, you’re going to have to have an open-mind and be willing to make your own rules for your life despite what society may say is appropriate behavior.

Going against the norm isn’t easy, but when you make choices that reflect the true you the rewards are always greater self-respect and satisfaction with your life.

But, and this is VERY important, the only way you can have a chance of saving your marriage after an affair is if the straying spouse is genuinely remorseful AND the betrayed is willing to forgive. If either of you is unwilling to do your part, then there’s no hope for your marriage.

When the straying spouse does have genuine remorse and the betrayed spouse is willing to forgive, you can begin exploring the possibility of saving your marriage.

And the exploration begins with a broadening of perspective. Infidelity is betrayal without a doubt. It is also a wakeup call to the fact that it’s time to deal with your…

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