Healing After Divorce

Woman crying while she's struggling with surviving divorce.

Surviving Divorce: Face Your Fears And Wipe Away Your Tears

By Dr. Karen Finn / February 25, 2016

Surviving divorce requires you to shed tears and grieve, but you must also avoid these pitfalls so your grief doesn’t hijack your healing after divorce.

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An Open Letter To My Body: You Are Perfect As You Are

By Dr. Karen Finn / February 23, 2016

You didn’t deserve those cruel things I did to you. Dear body,  I owe you an apology, and I’ve owed you one for years. It wasn’t your fault — no matter how much I thought that it was. It was mine. And I’m finally able to take responsibility for that now. So, yes, I’m sorry. Deeply…

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Man holding his head sitting on a boulder by the sea and wondering about the steps for divorce recovery.

Over-Responsible? 3 Mandatory Steps For Your Divorce Recovery

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 22, 2016

Divorce recovery is more challenging for over-responsible people. This 3-step process will remove the extra challenge over-responsible people face.

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Woman on blue yoga mat in push-up/plank position thinking about how my divorce required me to get powerful.

My Divorce Recovery Required Me To Get Powerful

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 6, 2016

As painful as divorce recovery is, the payoff for doing it well is a deeper appreciation and acceptance of you.

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45 Things You Need To Know About How To Get Over A Divorce

By Dr. Karen Finn / January 4, 2016

This is a comprehensive list of how to get over a divorce. It contains wisdom and links to more information from a range of sources about dealing with divorce.

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torsos of man in blue suit and woman in red dress, both with arms crossed, The Differences Between Men & Women During The Divorce Process.

The Differences Between Men & Women During The Divorce Process

By Dr. Karen Finn / December 21, 2015

By knowing this about your ex, you’ll be able to make it through your divorce more calmly.   An interesting thing happened during one of the divorce recovery workshops I lead. One of the male participants brought up the book His Needs Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. This participant shared the lists of…

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11 Struggles Only The Newly Divorced Understand

By Dr. Karen Finn / November 30, 2015

Being newly divorced can feel like you’re living in the Twilight Zone. Being newly separated or divorced is a strange place. It’s filled not only with all the physical and logistical changes of living alone, but also with a strange cocktail of emotions that seem to fluctuate wildly. One moment you’re heartbroken. The next you’re…

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Woman sits frustrated from cyber-stalking her ex. You may be mad at your ex, but don't be an exhole.

You May Be Mad At Your Ex, But Don’t Be An Exhole

By Dr. Karen Finn / November 16, 2015

They’re not your spouse anymore, so stop cyber-stalking them! An exhole is an ex who acts like an a**hole. In my role as a divorce coach, I’ve heard all kinds of stories from my clients and family law attorneys. Many times, the stories a client tells me are about their ex behaving like an exhole,…

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Divorce Recovery: Why You Need To Stop Listening To Your BFF

By Dr. Karen Finn / October 19, 2015

Coping with a divorce is difficult – make sure you are talking to the right people for support. I cringe whenever someone tries to comfort their friend who is going through a heart-wrenching divorce by lying to them. Even though the lie is told with love and without malice, it’s still destructive. Without meaning to,…

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Woman in blue petting orange tabby cat on orange bedspread.Healing from divorce, overcoming lonliness.

Healing From Divorce: Overcoming Your Loneliness

By Dr. Karen Finn / September 9, 2015

One of the hardest parts of healing from divorce is overcoming the soul-sucking loneliness. Here is a simple way to do just that.

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Sad man in warm blue vest holding his head in his hands sitting outside at railroad tracks during the fall. Hurt because your spouse is dating during divorce

Hurt Because Your Spouse Is Dating During Divorce?

By Dr. Karen Finn / August 19, 2015

It can feel like yet another betrayal when your spouse is dating during divorce. Here are some facts to consider to help you cope.

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Dealing With Divorce Loneliness? Hug Yourself Happy

By Dr. Karen Finn / August 15, 2015

Divorce loneliness can be overwhelming – but it doesn’t have to be crippling. Your divorce will probably be one of the most intense emotional experiences you’ll ever face. It sure was for me. I had a full spectrum of extraordinarily strong emotions hit one after another in an often confusing and frightening way. Sound familiar?…

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