January 31, 2017
Implementing these boundaries when co parenting will make parenting with your narcissistic ex easier.
One of the reasons your marriage ended in divorce was because living with a narcissist just wasn’t worth it any longer.
You hoped that by getting divorced your life would be infinitely better. You’d do your work to overcome the PTSD and low self-esteem and depression and whatever else you were suffering with in your marriage and things would be better for you and for your kids.
And now that you’re divorced, some things are better.
But when it comes to co parenting with your ex, the torture you experience is the same as (or worse than) it was when you were married.
You chose co parenting for your children because “experts” promote it as the best way to parent post-divorce. You followed their advice that the key to being successful is to set boundaries when co parenting. Well, you’ve tried and tried to establish boundaries to make co parenting with a narcissist work, but life is still a living hell whenever you interact with your ex.
The crux of the problem is that co parenting with a narcissist doesn’t work any better than marriage with a narcissist does.
But there is…
Read more: How To Set Boundaries When Co Parenting With A Narcissist
December 17, 2016
Co-parenting is not just about the kids.
Co-parenting is a term that most people don’t hear until they’re separating or divorcing. But the truth is that co-parenting is the ideal way to parent regardless of marital status. (Although, ideal doesn’t mean it will work best for you and your situation.) That’s because parents who raise their children this way agree on parenting decisions and choose to put their kids’ needs first.
At first blush, this definition of co-parenting makes it seem like the kids are the only beneficiaries. And there are definitely a lot of benefits for children whose parents co-parent. Among them are:
- Increased sense of security and self-worth. Kids who are co-parented know they can rely on both Mom and Dad to have their best interests at heart and to be consistent in their parenting decisions. This increased sense of security also translates to the children feeling loved and important.
- Decreased stress, anxiety and guilt at each of their homes. When kids know that their parents are working together to raise them, they don’t have to worry about Dad or Mom. They are free to simply be kids.
- Decreased stress and anxiety outside of the home.When children can trust their parents…
Read more: Who Does Co-Parenting Benefit?